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Dealing with 11 year old's mood swings

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BruhWhy · 21/05/2022 08:40

Well it's not a mood swing really, it's like the pendulum got stuck on "arsey" and hasn't been able to free itself 😤

He's (used to be!) the funniest, loveliest, kindest kid. And then it's like a switch was flipped and he's turned into a cynical, sarcastic, mean, grumpy old geezer. It's driving me MENTAL.

I know that it's hormones, and on top of that things have been a bit difficult for him lately just in life, things have come up that have disrupted things a bit and I'm trying to be patient with him and not rise to the sometimes nasty stuff that comes out of his mouth, (not generally towards me, but his little sisters and his dad) but it's really difficult sometimes.

For example 5yo DD (whom he usually adores) had an allergic reaction yesterday and still has swollen eyes. This morning she asked what's for dinner, and I told her meatballs and spaghetti. DS scoffed, rolled his eyes and said "yeah, meatballs like your eyes" ...and I was just so shocked at how nasty that was. She didn't do anything to warrant anything like that sort of comment, she loves him to pieces and it was so unnecessary. I lost my cool, shouted, told him he's being vile, and now he's in his room crying about how horrible I am.

Any advice or solidarity would be nice. Tell me that this doesn't last forever.

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srirachamayo · 09/07/2022 18:05

oh my god, I can't believe this post hasn't been answered. I'm in the same predicament. My boy is 11 year old and has started being rude, mean and sarcastic towards me and his 5 year old sibling, so I was looking for some wisdom too.

I hope some wiser parents can come along and offer some advice or reassuring words.

srirachamayo · 09/07/2022 18:09

To the OP: how have things been with your son since you last posted? Sending commiserating thoughts🌻

Notanotherwindow · 09/07/2022 19:07

Just keep losing your shit with him every now and then. He's crying because he knows you're right. Sometimes they have to be told straight up that their behaviour is disgraceful.

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Mollyplop999 · 09/07/2022 19:14

My grandson is 11 and seems to have had a complete change of personality! He's a lovely boy normally but he now has an "attitude " and is foul to his 9 Yr old brother advice appreciated!!!

sillysossidge · 11/07/2022 11:45

I'm really frustrated and feeling helpless. I don't know how to navigate that phase my 11 year old boy is going through.

What saddens me is that:

  • he sees everything in black and it seems like he cannot help but spread the negativity around.
  • it's affecting my 5 year old who is lovely and just deserves a positive caring environment. Instead, he gets bullied by 11 year old brother, and he copies older brother's moodiness and negativity.
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