Anyone else still dreaming of their ex?

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I left my XH 5 years ago. He treated me and our kids terribly while married and worse after we separated. He is still angry and tries to disrupt my life as much as possible but I've put pretty good boundaries up and we are mostly NC. I absolutely loathe him.

I'm now in a stable, loving relationship and life, apart from the odd intrusion by the XH, is pretty wonderful.

Here's the weird thing... in my dreams, I'm still in a family unit with the XH. The dreams aren't always about him as such, he's just there and we're together. I'm usually mildly annoyed with him about something, and there is sometimes sex, ugh. I don't think I've ever had a dream featuring my current DP of 3+ years.

Does anyone else relate to this? Has my subconscious just not caught up? Is it a trauma thing, even though the dreams are just about everyday life and not traumatic at all?

I am 100% not holding a torch for the guy.

Please tell me I'm not alone and not completely bonkers!

I dream about my significant and abusive ex fairly often. In the dreams I am normally pretty furious with him. I never dream about my loving and wonderful husband of over a decade. I think it’s probably to do with unfinished business: my ex left me abruptly and in horrible circumstances. I think it’s your brains way of coping and “filing” the information so that you can cope. I wouldn’t read too much into it.

Thanks @Burn, good to know I'm not alone. I feel kind of annoyed that he's still taking up so much headspace!