Our ds has been dating his girlfriend 6 months, she is his first real girlfriend. They are both at university, his 2nd year, her first. She seems like a lovely girl (we haven’t met yet, he’s a whole day flight from us). We are (lower) middle income - we’re doing ok but we do watch and have a budget. His girlfriend’s parents are in a much higher income bracket.
We needed to send ds some papers he needed for his summer job, we had to overnight them. Long story short, the papers didn’t arrive the next day. His girlfriend intercepted them and then overnighted from her location. I’m estimating it cost her approximately £116 to overnight this.
I told ds to ask her how much it was and we’d reimburse him and then he could reimburse her. She said it ‘wasn’t that much’ and blocked him Venmo-Ing her so he couldn’t pay her back. He said he was going to buy her a gift or something to thank her but…he tends to let things slide, especially with this new job he started.
Here’s the WWYD part - should I get on him to get this gift, or should I stay out of it? They are an hour and a half apart so it’s not like he can take her to a nice dinner or something right away. We have been invited by her parents to stay at their vacation home in the summer for one night, and I’m going to bring a hostess gift and a little something for his girlfriend then but I hate to see her out what I see as a lot of money. I’m very new to this girlfriend thing, it’s his first so I don’t want to overstep but I want to impress on him that I think it’s important he pays her back - even as a gift. Thank you for reading this, sorry it’s so long!