School mum is police officer who helped during domestic abuse

[Buzlightyear1]

So was wondering what you would do. I was walking up to school and one of the mums was talking to me and it had been bugging me where I know her from. So I asked she then said she works for the police and it hit me that she had helped with a problem I was having with my ex. She was so kind at the time she really helped me. I was shocked to realise who she was and so just said oh thank you, you helped with a ex and kind of bumbled on until I got away. She did say she doesn't remember me which I hope is true and not her being polite, but now I'm wondering if I should ask her not to say anything to anyone or just keep my mouth shut.

She won't tell anyone, don't worry.

Pretty sure there's some sort of confidentiality/professional standards that would stop her gossiping.

As part of her job, she will be subject to keeping confidentiality. She won’t say anything.

Don't ask her. She's a professional. She won't gossip about you.

I think her saying ‘she didn’t remember’ was a nice way of reassuring you she wouldn’t say anything without telling you explicitly.

Thank you i was panicking, she was do lovely then and always so kind as we walk up to school so really don't want to make things awkward.

She is a professional ,dont worry .She wont talk about this to anyone else .Its good she has been so kind .

Don't worry at all, as an HCP I see patients on the school run all the time... I can absolutely reassure you that I would never even mention how I know them let alone anything else ! Likewise I wish they would do the same rather than wanting a consultation on the playground !!!

This has made me feel a lot better thank you. She was very nice but I couldn't even speak I was panicked and loads of rubbish and the word my ex came out 🙄i just wasn't prepared. But you have all made me feel a lot better about it thank you

She won't breathe a word. I don't recognise people in my job, it's all strictly confidential
I'm glad you are in a better place @Buzlightyear1

She won't say a word. Don't worry x

This was her way of saying it's fine,let's go from here,you can trust me not to ever bring this up or share. Kinda like when people say let's not talk of this again and the other person says "of what?"☺

I think she may remember , possibly why she told you she was with the police when you asked where you knew her from .

I wouldn't worry though, they aren't allowed to say anything and with you saying how nice she was I doubt she'd want to go around gossiping anyway!

I wouldn't say anything more about it to her

It’s awkward for you but she won’t say anything

Her saying she didn't remember was definitely a subtle way of saying her lips are sealed.

I had slightly similar when our GP moved their child to the same school and class, and I had an awful flash memory of them examining me once at the GP surgery. Quite an intimate exam.

We've both just ignored it and now socialise together.

She helped you.

She is a professional and will understand that it is essential to maintain confidentiality.

I don't think you have anything to worry about nor do you need to avoid her.

In a volunteer role I have I hear lots of confidential things and I would never divulge identifiable Information about a client. Nor win a police officer!

Thank you all so much you have definitely put my mind at ease. I've been struggling a bit trying to muddle through but things have been going well today. Then suddenly everything came flashing back and I couldn't even talk what a fool I am. I will definitely not say anything and just do my best to be normal. 😅

Her saying “I don’t remember you” is literal code for “not going to speak a word of this, I’m a professional”. Plus I’m sure there is a confidentiality about things like this.

I wouldn’t worry at all, she sounds like a great person.