Worried I will be an awful mother

[Flowerusb]

im pregnant and wanted to be for a long time. Now I am, I am realising how bloody selfish I am.

Sat reading the paper in a cafe outside and honestly fuming at the noise kids are making and the ridiculous conversations going on about how ‘he’s eyeing up that ice cream!’ FFS sake he’s not, he literally just woke up and doesn’t know where he is let alone what an ice cream is.

I can’t stand the baby chat and I didn’t expect to feel this way!! I also don’t know how I will ever get excited about some badly drawn picture. Really worried.

Don't be worried. Other parents are, in my experience, really pretty irritating, especially when you don't know them or their kids.
You may feel differently when you have your own, but honestly don't give it much thought 😁

You won't be a crap mum. It's different when you have your own. I do like kids but they can be annoying, it's a fact of life. No one goes into parenthood completely sure what they're doing. It's a learning process.

You own kids are never quite as annoying and awful mothers don't worry about being awful mothers.

The noise of kids used to irritate me immensely too, and sometimes it still does. I have a 2.5 year old and a baby due in August. Parenthood changes your perspective a bit. It teaches you tolerance and patience.

Annoying kids and annoying parents will always be annoying, but not all families are like that. It's your job to raise your child not to be an annoying little monster, and I don't doubt you'll do a good job!

Also, pregnancy rage is real. It's easy to become irritated during pregnancy by things that wouldn't normally irritate you quite so much. So cut yourself some slack and enjoy your pregnancy!

A read a quote years ago. "No parent has all their shit together. We're all just fucking winging it and hoping nobody finds out". Never a truer word spoken, and it has become my life's manta a lot!

It’s completely different when it’s your own. You will find everything they do absolutely adorable because it’s a tiny human that you made.
Other kids are annoying.
Baby chat is very dull, avoid making friends with people whose only personality trait is being a parent.

Parents are just humans with children, you probably don't like all humans so you won't like all parents. It's ok!

I have four kids, work with kids and I still feel like that sometimes! So much different having your own children your thought process totally changes but also as a parent it doesn't mean you can't put yourself first sometimes too!

You will be fine. Your whole perception of the world will change when your baby comes 🤩

You will be fine. I’m not a fan of baby talk, I hated the nonsense chat even when DS was tiny. My particular pet peeve was when people were calling him a “clever boy” for hitting his milestones 😂I know it’s just what people say, meaningless, just a nice comment but inside I was always just cringing, nope, he’s sitting up, that doesn’t make him a genius 😁
Also, your own child is just..different. It’s a cliché but they really change your perspective, teach you patience and increase your tolerance of noise and mess.

@Flowerusb the ice cream bit made me laugh. I've got three children now and the in laws (lovely people) but do the whole over the type stuff like that. I can't cope with it, I sit there laughing to myself.

The fact your worrying says you'll be a great parent, for some reason worry and guilt go hand in hand with parenting. Anyway good luck, it's good fun.

You'll be fine... I had 4 kids, have worked with kids for the last 20 years... and still find some things irritating (like the icecream statement!)
But your OWN baby... that's different . Mother love is a weird and wonderful thing!!!