Teen sisters fighting

[Newpuppymummy]

my daughters aged 17 and 18 do not get on very well. Tonight this result in a physical fight in the living room which admittedly I don’t think had ever really happened before. It was over something fairly minor.

my eldest is a difficult character. She is very quick to take offence and bloody hard work sometimes. she loves and craves the affection of her younger sister but goes the wrong way about it and usually ends up annoying her.

my 17 year old has suffered with her mh. She very much tolerates her sister. She can be quite snappy and sarcastic with her.shes told me she doesn’t like her sister more than once.

tonight I felt there were faults on both sides and didn’t intervene. No one was at risk of getting really hurt.

I just don’t know how to help them manage their differences. Any wisdom?

[MolliciousIntent]

Tell them that you won't tolerate violence in your home and if they insist on sniping at each other to do it where you can't hear it. Then leave them alone. They don't like each other and you won't be able to change that.

[Springdaisy]

Its possible that they grow out of it later on when they have some distance and dont live together anymore. My sister and i did not get along in our teen years. We spent some time apart when i was 16 (she was 14) because i went to boarding school. After that she moved out for college. I met my DH quite young and moved out when i was 19.
we didnt have much contact in that time at all. We just kinda went out own way for a few years.

We are mid thirties now and have a very close relationship. We live in the same town 5mins from each other and meet up several times a week with and without children. She is so important to me and i really cant believe how horrible we used to be to each other. We are just very different people and couldnt figure out how to get along.

im really not sure what out parents could hve done. But i thought id share this to let you know that their relationship can still change.

[Newpuppymummy]

Thank you @Springdaisy for sharing that. Lying in bed crying now as it’s making me so stressed so lovely to have that glimmer of hope for their relationship