I want to move to the uk but family are against it

[orla888]

Hi everyone i am new to mumsnet so not sure if i am posting in the right place. DH passed away 6 months ago. I need a fresh start but my grandchildren are against it. Dublin is our home and they’re saying I shouldn’t leave just because of grief but I see no other option. I love my grandchildren dearly but would it be selfish to do it for me rather than stay for my family. Open to all opinions thank you

What support system do you have in the UK? Would you be OK with only seeing them if you make the journey?

Why is it the only option? Sorry for your loss.

I’m sorry for your loss.
There is at the very least one option: Grieg counselling. It’s only been 6 months.

You could move within Dublin or Ireland. Take 6 months in Spain or inter railing. Get away from everything without permanent changes. Live in a campervan and travel the U.K. scoping places to live.

You don’t owe it to your grandchildren to stay… but it seems a big change with no reasonin your OP.

You shouldn't stay for your family if the move is the right one for you, but you haven't given any back story to explain why it would be right to you.

I think most adults would be concerned if their recently bereaved parent suddenly decided to move away from them - I know I would be.

They say you shouldn't make a major decision like this within a year of a major bereavement.

I think an extended holiday could be good, but perhaps see how you feel in a years time