How to fix a broken breakup????

[DesperateDad81]

August 21 I came home from work to find my wife and 5yo gone. She had left me and my 13yo. She came back for Christmas then done the same thing boxing day. I'm not going to say i was the perfect husband because I spent too much time working and neglecting my duties as a husband and dad. When she left January again i took it really bad and it led to me getting sacked from work. Since then my life has spiralled and she has now taken my 13 year old off me. I cant afford a solicitor and she wont let me see my kids. We where together for 22 years and she knows my battles and why and i never ever thought she would act like this with the kids because i know she's not like that. There must be a way to fix this so that we can live separate lives but be parents together. I don't hate her I just don't understand why she is doing this knowing how much it hurts me

Is mediation free through social services or somewhere? Could you try that?

No it is not

OP you need to set up mediation (you will have to pay unless you're on qualifying benefits). Google family law mediators in your area and set up an appointment. If she refuses to attend you can apply to court for contact. You don't need a solicitor to do this though of course it would help.

Have you accepted that she's not coming back? Nothing will move on until that happens. It takes a lot of effort and headspace to leave a long relationship, once it's at that stage, there's no going back.

I'm not going to ask what your battles where but sometimes we get weighed down by other people's battles and just can't take any more. It's the same for both sexes.

We where together for 22 years and married for the last 2 years of our relationship. She had a illness for the last 13 years. She suffered depression and anxiety as did I. Hers was brought on by her illness, mine brought on by childhood traumas. We where always there for eachother. Until one day in August 21. I now accept shes not coming back but i need to see my kids. I have gone from having a wife and 3 kids here, to a wife and 2 kids here and 1 living with his gf, to 1 kid living here, then losing my job, then sitting in a house on my own. Im 40 ive spent my whole adult life with her and my kids. I dont know what to do