3 yr old DS is shy around other children

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It pains me to see him shy away from others but I know deep Down he wants to play and get involved.

Has anyone else had a youngster like this but turned into a confident child? I really want ds to be confident and not timid. I know from experience how painful it can be ☹️

Yes I had exactly this with DD right up
until she started school. Socialising used to be such a chore because of it. She is now the life and souls of every party there is going and so chatty and friendly to everyone you would never think she used to be like that. Just keep exposing him to social situations let him take things at his own pace, never criticise him for being that way and eventually he will come out of his shell

My daughter was so shy at nursery that I would watch her through the window frozen in fear of interaction. I was so worried for her starting school.
She's in year 1 now, and has bloomed into such a happy child, I feel quite amazed. She will never be the loudest member of the class, but has wonderful friendships with a group of children that have brought the best out of her.
School seemed to take our worries seriously, and gently helped to forge friendships and encourage joining in without ever pushing her too hard.

Mine was painfully shy and awkward at 3. All of his nursery reports would say he played alone independently rather than with others.

Hes still shy now at times however is one of the most popular boys in his class 🙂 He’s not an extrovert by any means but I think being kind and a good friend is more important!

My son is 7 and was always painfully quiet and shy. He has an elder sister who's the polar opposite.

He's slowly but surely coming out of his shell and finding his friends and his place in the world? It's just taking him a big longer. I'd heartily recommend gentle encouragement but respecting his boundaries.

Realistically he may never be Uber confident, but as long as he can make friends and hang out with the people he's chosen happily, then surely he can't go far wrong.

My now 5 year old was like that until he went to school nursery aged 3, within a few weeks he was a different child.I guess he just needed that intense every day socialisation and is now a fairly confident little chap with lots of friends :)

Ds was shy and quiet until P3. P1 and P2 teachers said at parents evening he was really quiet and they were trying to encourage him to open up. P3 teacher and every teacher since have said he needs to shut up 🤣