No one is perfect. True?

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Based on the fact that some people are genuinely utterly depraved and hideous human being surely some must be the opposite and pretty nearly perfect?

I used to live with a boyfriend who had literally no annoying/ bad habits whatsoever ever. It was a revelation. Never had it before or after even with my
When we broke up there was lots of no ones perfect” but I couldn’t help feeling he probably was. And I’m REALLY critical. I mean he had nothing that anyone could say he’s “too” anything
I also think my female manager is the same. A beautiful person inside and out. Anyone known a perfect person?

There was only ever one person who was perfect. And they crucified him.

I’m perfect😊😁

I think it depends on what you define as perfect. Surely it means different things to different people? So OP, you say your ex had no annoying habits, but that doesn't mean others would agree.

I think dh is very nearly perfect. But since no one else has snatched him up before me it just possibly might not be a universal opinion.

or he might have been waiting to meet perfect me (in which case he has seriously poor judgement and therefore isn’t as perfect as he seems)

Mary Poppins was practically perfect in every way

One of my SIL's is

I've never met someone so flawless, kind, amazing strength. She's been through the most hellish of times, buried 2 children, assaulted in the street by a drunk

Yet she's helpful, kind, willing to do anything for you, if you have a problem she'll research it. She's the type of person to really listen, and never judges like you'd expect of someone. She listens and then considers all options and ways skmehone might have reached that point.

She is perfect.

Matter of taste isn't it. One person's perfect is another person's intolerably pollyannaish. Another person's perfect would be boring to some. And then my idea of perfect would be horrifying to a lot of people.

This.

My friend is 'perfect'. She works at it. I find myself grinding my teeth at the crap she puts up with. I just want to shout, TELL THEM TO FUCK OFF. Her DH takes her entirely for granted.

I don’t know. I think we all recognise dick behaviour and know what a bad habit looks like. That’s obviously different to whether you personally can put up with it (or enjoy it).

Its not about being a prig or Pollyanna because those people are boring and judgemental. I think we could all agree on “good” traits. I’m messy. I can put up with a lot of mess and it not bother me but I recognise that’s it’s better to be clean and tidy. Being tidy is a good trait in itself whereas making a big deal about cleaning, fussing about stuff isn’t.

It’s about people who are naturally less annoying, nice to be around etc.

I know a woman who is so clever (and her qualifications and success at work reflect this) very funny, good company, friendly, sensible, supportive of other women, never ever says a bad word about anybody but doesn't ever come across as holier than thou. sometimes when I'm about to say something and a you know those four questions they recommend you ask yourself before you say something....'is this kind ? do you know this to be true? etc, now I shorten it, I ask myself ''would *Sarah King say this? and then I shut my gob.

Even the very sick & depraved usually have moments when they are clever, charming, funny, even kind.

Some people work at perfecting their bad habits and improving thier manners so appear near perfect. My friend is like this, she meditates, does yoga, everyday, is kind, yet firm with everyone and never gossips or talks behind anyones back ie she sees the good in everyone. Shes geneorous with her time and resources and will try to help people out whenever she can. She never ever tries to shove her opinion down your throat, basically shes moderate in all aspects of her life and doesn't allow herself to get worked up about things, especially other peoples opinions. But she also values and looks after her own well-being. She is so polite and dignified even though I know she has been through a horrendous divorce and lost a child she still remains positive but I think thats because she was open to getting help and working through her problems in thats she had therapy, goes to retreats, will try alternatives approachez like crystals and essential oils etc if she thinks it will help.

Perfection- like beauty- is in the eye of the beholder.

I think it's not nearly that clear cut. If they have a clear sense of self and boundaries they don't overstep by definition those boundaries are going to rub some people up the wrong way - if they fit your desires you'll find them lovely, but when someone wants them to cross their boundaries they'll find them stubborn and unreasonable.

If they don't have a clear sense of self and boundaries then they're going to be easily influenced to doing things that are not desirable to some people. So the same occurs.

I know someone like this. Everyone who meets her loves her. She's not a "pollyanna" type, she's hilarious and lots of fun. She just gets along with everyone, everyone wants to be her friend.