What is your best top tip?

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Mine: to stop hiccups, have a teaspoon of vinegar. Everyone has always been surprised how effective it is! so much so, I was in a pub once and couldn’t stop hiccuping, so I had a sachet of vinegar and everyone stared in amazement at 1) how gross it was (I love vinegar so didn’t care) and 2) that it instantly stopped hiccups!

Hopefully this tip helps someone else!

What’s yours?

If someone is very cold, put your mouth on their back between their shoulder blades (over their clothes) and breathe out hard. Instant magic warmth.

No way!!

Hiccup cure here is to drink from the wrong side of a glass, ie upside down.

Start paying into a pension early. You’ll need that money to supplement anything you might get from the state and that pot will have to last you thirty years or so.

Don't eat yellow snow.

Remember that thoughts and feelings are not facts. Question them. It’s liberating and illuminating.

Only regret what you did do, not what you didn't.

@ChocAuVin im very interested in this and would like to have a thought pattern like this. Can you elaborate a bit more or give an example?

Take care of your forehead (skin), because it holds your face up.

Vinegar and sugar for hiccups

@velvetblanket Absolutely

We have soooo many (AFAIK, estimated 50-80k) thoughts per day and often simply believe the movie we are playing in our head as fact. The more stressful thoughts can cause us a lot of suffering. If we pause and clarify the thought (e.g. “Jane is always so selfish”, or “My boss hates me”, or “I’m such an embarrassment”… you get the picture…) then we can consciously question the thought: (Is it absolutely true?) When we notice the movie and narrative and question it, we can often find clues to distorted thinking and start to shift our frame/perspective.

The mind is very good at clamouring “Yes! Yes! Of course it’s true!” in response to any attempt at scrutinising / questioning our thoughts, but if we can stay with the enquiry, we can often notice we are dealing in absolutes that aren’t helpful or even particularly accurate.

Even if we do conclude that what we are thinking and believing is absolutely true, we can still notice how we react when we think that thought. What kind of person does that line of thinking make us in the moment we think it? How does it cause us to treat others? How do we act? Then we can ask: who would I be without this thought — if I simply couldn’t think it? And the answer is often very peaceful. At least that has been my experience.

@ChocAuVin wow thanks, beautifully explained.
I NEED this in my life as some thoughts this morning sent me spiralling into an on off crying fit for about an hour. Turned out they were just thoughts and not a fact yet wasted an hour of my time on them.
I'm going to give your suggestion a go tomorrow. Genuine many thanks .

@velvetblanket It was a big realisation for me that most of the time we are caught up in images of the past or the future in our minds, and that quite literally all of us are doing this, a lot of the time!

I’ve come to see a lot of needless suffering happens through not questioning our thoughts and not noticing that our minds are often busy projecting movies and narratives onto other people, the past, the future that simply don’t reflect reality — there’s a great Mark Twain quote: “I've lived through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” 🤣

Best impressive tip to stop hiccups is to run up a flight of stairs, declare “I haven’t got hiccups” and walk back down again. You won’t have hiccups by the time you reach the bottom!

I used to work in a bar as a teen and won many bets with this knowledge

Put a penny (or anything copper) in your vase of tulips to stop them wilting.

I only found this out yesterday and am one day 1 of trying it so cannot vouch for its validity. 😂

Cut toast, pizza etc with clean kitchen scissors. Game changer!

If you batch cook bolognese for the freezer, when you bag it in portions squish the bags flat and get the air out.

Freezing them flat:
Takes less space in the freezer
Defrosts more quickly
CAN BE USED FROZEN FOR LASAGNE LAYERS!

It's a game changer!!

We used to do this. And then declare... 'ray-de-a-tor'

Put a dry towel in with wet clothes when tumble drying. Cuts down the drying time a lot.

@velvetblanket

CBT is what you need

I'm useless of using the techniques taught in CBT. I've tried group sessions, one on one ongoing sessions and DIY cbt and I just don't'learn' from it and carry on with my old ways. Desperate to be a 'normal' functioning person but fear I'm a lost cause.
I suspected for a long time I may have a personality disorder but also recently my young dd is being looked at for asd and i have a lot of traits of this though never knew it until I started looking into asd in girls and how they present differently to boys or classic autism symptoms.

Though I challenged myself today ,as per @ChocAuVin suggestion, in 2 different work situations today and it did help and outcome was different in a good way to what would have normally happened.

Be born into privilege and wealth in a functional family if possible.

Don't waste you life by being with someone who doesn't love, cherish. respect and care about you.

Days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months and months turn into years before you know it.

You'll waste your life hoping that they or things will change. They won't.