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I know I'm old and times have changed...

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Athleticpotential · 10/05/2022 17:45

but is it OK to go to an interview in leggings and flip flops?

It isn't a senior role and there's no particularly formal dress code, although actually leggings are not allowed and flip flops are banned for safety reasons, candidate would not necessarily have known that.

I know what she looks like shouldn't make a difference and maybe it's all she had etc, but surely it's still normal to make some sort of effort to be smart for an interview?

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RollOnWinter · 10/05/2022 18:39

I wouldn't go to the corner shop in leggings and flip-flops. It sounds as though this woman really couldn't give a toss/is completely ignorant about social/business interactions.

OuiWeeOui · 10/05/2022 18:42

I probably would include it in her feedback if you can , can you say unsuitable attire for an interview? I’m not sure
she may really want the job but never been advised on how to dress

janj2301 · 10/05/2022 18:45

I wear flip flops all year but for intereviews I wear a skirt/tights/flat shoes

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 10/05/2022 18:45

RollOnWinter · 10/05/2022 18:39

I wouldn't go to the corner shop in leggings and flip-flops. It sounds as though this woman really couldn't give a toss/is completely ignorant about social/business interactions.

Why?

I don't agree with it for interview. But what's wrong with it for general day to day?!

TottersBlankly · 10/05/2022 18:46

It’s the possibility that she either didn’t understand the convention of dressing more formally for interviews, or genuinely had nothing else (despite having a job) that worries me.

If not forced to attend I wonder why she did - given that she didn’t appear to put any effort into the interview at all.

MangoLipstick · 10/05/2022 18:47

YANBU.

A little bit of effort goes along way.

TabithaTittlemouse · 10/05/2022 18:51

Even if she had no other shoes she could have borrowed some.
The outfit as a whole screams that she can’t be bothered.

TottersBlankly · 10/05/2022 18:58

If she’d turned up as described but had obviously researched the job and performed really well as an interviewee I would have disregarded the outfit completely.

Was there a reason why she might have performed poorly?

Pinkpigs · 10/05/2022 18:59

She made the effort to get there no offense to anyone but why judge her on her foot wear

icelollycraving · 10/05/2022 19:01

I’ve found people are very much more casual for interviews since covid.
My company used to be v strict, no nail colour, natural makeup, no visible tattoos etc. I have previously had to decline people who were perfect but had a tattoo on their hand. Expectations have now loosened up a bit.
I wouldn’t write anything about attire on interview notes.

HotDogKetchup · 10/05/2022 19:01

Not ideal.

Pinkpigs · 10/05/2022 19:05

Shoes and clothes make a good impression but sometimes people judge to quickly on others just let her know that she can't wear flip flops in the kitchen I'm sure she already knows that'. Sorry but i think you are being unreasonable to judge someone just by the way they dressed

SolasAnla · 10/05/2022 19:17

Athleticpotential · 10/05/2022 18:32

She was clean and tidy, but in grey marl leggings and hoodie with flip flops.

I don't think it was due to the job centre - she is currently in work

She didn't give a good interview, I was wondering whether to include attire in the feedback.

It's a kitchen job, so smart clothes not a requirement, but definitely no flip flops!

Not ok, covered feet and toes would be basic health and safety in a kitchen. So turning up in clothing/footwear which she could not safely work in would be a deal breaker.

AngelinaFibres · 10/05/2022 19:20

Pinkpigs · 10/05/2022 18:59

She made the effort to get there no offense to anyone but why judge her on her foot wear

When you go for an interview you are competing with other candidates. You need to be the best person for the job but you also need to look as if you care/ do not live in chaos. There are charities that provide people with interview appropriate clothes . The job centre would know about these. You can get a white blouse ,a plain skirt and a pair of black shoes for a few pounds from a charity shop. You can wear it over and over and over again when you go for interviews/start your new job so, if funds are limited, buy the clothes and eat cereal for tea for a week. I did exactly that. You are investing in your future.
I have a friend who runs a plant nursery. He asked a young man,whose parents he knew, if he would like a Saturday job on his huge market stall. The young man said no because he didn't like early mornings. He offered his sister as an option. She turned up for interview,on the Saturday morning , wearing a onesie and slippers. She thought it was okay to turn up like that because it was early in the morning. He sent her packing.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 10/05/2022 19:46

Maybe she never had formal interview before and didn't know the standard. I think your feedback would help her in the future in that case.

AffIt · 10/05/2022 20:32

Pinkpigs · 10/05/2022 18:59

She made the effort to get there no offense to anyone but why judge her on her foot wear

Because much apart from anything else - 'getting there' really is the absolute bare minimum - if somebody is applying for a kitchen job, you would really, really hope they had the common sense to appreciate that working in a commercial kitchen requires sensible shoes.

'Getting there'. Fuck me, some people's bars are so low they're drinking cocktails in Hades...

Greatoutdoors · 10/05/2022 20:41

I wouldn’t worry about the leggings and hoody as long as they were clean and tidy. I’d possibly mention the flip flops though. I used to work in a student bar in my youth and the former would be fine, the latter not.

bigbluebus · 10/05/2022 20:49

When my DS went for an interview recently he was dressed smarter than those on the interview panel!This was for a public sector office job! Don't think anyone was wearing flip flops though but he did say his new manager was wearing jeans.
Standards have definitely dropped!

TokyoTen · 10/05/2022 20:55

I personally wouldn't include attire in feedback. However it's not suitable to wear that to an interview in my view.

frogleap · 10/05/2022 22:25

I'm pretty sure this question gets asked on MN every now and then - maybe do a search and read the threads?

YesINameChangedToAnswer · 10/05/2022 22:33

frogleap · 10/05/2022 22:25

I'm pretty sure this question gets asked on MN every now and then - maybe do a search and read the threads?

Hmm
Athleticpotential · 11/05/2022 07:57

frogleap · 10/05/2022 22:25

I'm pretty sure this question gets asked on MN every now and then - maybe do a search and read the threads?

Hmm, maybe read the post? Seeing as how it was specifically about changing times?

And there would be no MN if nothing was ever repeated

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StarlightLady · 11/05/2022 09:18

This is a difficult one because a lot depends on the culture of the organisation, sometimes no amount of research would disclose this.

When I interview I try and disregard what someone is wearing (there is any exception there when someone had "food blobs" on his shirt), providing they are clean and tidy. I think that hair and grooming disclose more about a person.

lljkk · 11/05/2022 09:32

about what to say in the feedback.
Did the flipflops truly influence your decision?

Given the grooming people sometimes put into their feet and how fancy flipflops can be, I'm not sure they are always inappropriate.

alwayscrashinginthesamecar1 · 11/05/2022 10:08

lljkk · 11/05/2022 09:32

about what to say in the feedback.
Did the flipflops truly influence your decision?

Given the grooming people sometimes put into their feet and how fancy flipflops can be, I'm not sure they are always inappropriate.

They are inappropriate for this job, maybe not if you are going to work in a beach bar. And I say that as someone who lives in Western Australia where often people don't even bother with shoes at all! I practically live in thongs/flip-flops but wouldn't dream of rocking up to an interview in them.