Anyone want to keep a miserable, pregnant woman company?

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I'm probably hormonal but my god I feel at breaking point tonight. Everything seems to be getting on top of me.

I'm 37 weeks pregnant, we moved into our house 6 months ago and since then it's continuous work being done. DP is the one paying for all the work to be done, and to be fair the house is coming along beautifully. He can't relax until jobs are done, to the best standard and if something needs fixing it cannot wait. It's tiring but he pays for it and has very good ideas.

We have separate finances but we both own the house 50/50 and in the event that we split it's drawn up that I get half of the equity and deposit. We will get married but with the baby en route and the house needing to be done it's not priority right now.

DP snores like hell, literally sounds like a dragon roaring away and we've tried everything - special pillows, gum guards, not drinking alcohol, going to bed at different times, he's even been to the GP about sleep apnoea but was rejected by the sleep clinic because he didn't meet their criteria of falling asleep standing up etc.

I'm awake again because the snoring is bellowing through the hallway - I can hear it through my ear plugs. I've just burst into tears because I've never felt like this is "home" yet because of the constant tradesman in and out. I miss our peaceful rental where I could walk round with my tits out if I wanted to, could nap when I wanted to, didn't have to make endless rounds of tea for people. I can't even lie in at weekends because DP is up waiting for deliveries to come.

My due date is approaching and I feel like im NEVER going to get this time back. To just go to sleep, without worrying about another tiny human and being able to work to my own schedule.

The tradesmen will be back at 7.30am, I've had 4 hours sleep last night because of the snoring, I can't sleep again tonight and I'm so fed up. I know it's a first world problem but I actually feel like screaming. DP just thinks I'm being ungrateful moaning because he's working so hard to get the house ready for the baby but I'd genuinely prefer to wait

Anyone else up and miserable? 

It is stress combined with the sheer torture of sleep deprivation. The best I can offer is that you will lol back on this with humour. But for now, can you decamp your a friend
or relations for even just one night? Pretend it’s a pre baby girly night or something.

that, or ask him to build you a patio… you know what to do with the foundations..

How long until its done? This isn't just pregnancy hormones, this would drive most people to distraction! I would hate having people just hovering about in my house. Oh the snoring. I've fantasised many times about smothering my snoring husband haha. I too have earplugs that don't even touch the surface.

Sounds really annoying OP.

This is supposed to be your nesting period and these people are ruining it for you! (I think I might have even stamped my foot when I shouted something similar to this at my DH soon before DD was born). I too had lots of work done on the house late in pregnancy. It was hell but looking back, I was so pleased I’d got it over with before the baby arrived. You will be too I’m sure!

Ride it out, lock yourself in your room & sleep in the day. Forget making tea for workmen! Good luck!

I feel your pain.I am 38 weeks pregnant and my husband is fast asleep beside me here.Snoring.It’s frustrating.I am lying down worrying about third baby labour and how we will manage etc.My partner could sleep on the edge of a cliff.

I don't really have anywhere to go although I'm tempted to book myself in to a hotel room just to sleep. I can't sleep in the day due to the constant banging at the moment - last week was the bathroom being sorted, this week the patio is being laid right outside my bedroom so the constant banging keeps me awake in the day.

@ICannotRememberAThing I'll take your word for it and ride it out! I guess there's not much more I can do apart from put my foot down and say no more work in the house.

@Disneydatknee88 DP always finds another job to do so apparently the garden patio is the last which should be done on Thursday. Although he's already making noises about having a porch built!!

@Pickledlemo Sorry to hear you're also struggling with your sleep. Someone else's snoring, especially heavily pregnant, is the actual pits. I feel your pain

Much sympathy!

Do you have a spare room? Temporary solution would be to decamp there as sleep deprivation won't help your ability to cope. Earplugs don't work, in my experience. Noise cancelling headphones? Though I don't know if those would work or be good to sleep wearing.

Has he always snored like this, or is this a development later on in your relationship?

In my relationship, it doesn't take much weight at all for men to start snoring. Our fat tends to go to our stomachs first, theirs to their necks.

Have you tried decamping to a spare room (or sending him to one) and putting something on Netflix etc that you've watched a million times before and using that as background noise? Has to be something you've watched to death so the chatter is familiar and comforting and you don't feel like you have to have attention to the words.