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If your over 50, do you feel it’s like you’ve disappeared ?

52 replies

LovelyYellowLabrador · 08/05/2022 21:52

This is what I’ve heard a couple of times
and I’m wondering what your general thought are in this as only five years away from that age now

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TheFallenMadonna · 08/05/2022 22:27

In what context? Family? No. Work? No. Social life? No, but my friends are mostly of a similar age.

Cazziebo · 08/05/2022 22:29

Nope! Never been as visible as I have been in my 50s and hoping that will continue into my 60s. Never been as confident or as energetic as I am now. I'm just praying that my current good health holds up so that I have many more years to enjoy life.

5zeds · 08/05/2022 22:30

Nope

TheVanguardSix · 08/05/2022 22:33

Visible? Invisible? Who knows? Who cares?
My voice is heard! That is everything.

skippy67 · 08/05/2022 22:33

Nope. My social life is busier now than when I was in my thirties. I have friends of varying ages since joining a sports club 9 years ago. I can honestly say I'm having the time of my life!

Lightning020 · 09/05/2022 06:17

I do not depend upon male attention but no I do not feel I have disappeared and I am 58.

Rosehugger · 09/05/2022 06:25

Who said that? 😆

Why 50?

Someone in a novel gave an example of "being ignored when trying to get served at the bar" (and that was about turning 40) but that's just poor customer service - that happened a lot more when I was 18 TBH and was not assertive enough to say EXCUSE ME, I THINK.I WAS NEXT!

OrangeBall · 09/05/2022 06:31

No but I was never that attractive anyway

I definitely tolerate a lot less bullshit from other people though

Oblomov22 · 09/05/2022 06:34

WTF? Why do you even care?

Forgottenmypasswordagain · 09/05/2022 06:44

Not at all.

Bonabee · 09/05/2022 06:48

Absolutely not 😊

Drunkpanda · 09/05/2022 06:51

Well at work, yes, youth is everything. Not in other parts of life.

Drunkpanda · 09/05/2022 06:51

(In my workplace, not saying the case for everyone)

ThatshallotBaby · 09/05/2022 06:52

I’m 54, through the menopause. I do NOT want my oestrogen back Grin
I finally finally feel that it’s ok to be me. It’s a good feeling.

Take heart @LovelyYellowLabrador it gets better

notprincehamlet · 09/05/2022 07:37

I completely disappeared mid-40s when caring responsibilities did for my career/life. Now I have a crap job/life where no one hears anything I say until someone more relevant repeats it.

GandTfortea · 09/05/2022 07:42

No .multi coloured hair ,lots of tattoos,and a very old convertible sports car ..
TBH …I’d actually rather be invisible,but then I’d not be me without my bright hair .
i do feel to old for it sometimes,although I’m not yet 50 .i do feel I should shut up and disappear..I don’t know where that feeling comes from tho

HeadNorth · 09/05/2022 07:46

No, I've not noticed any big change in other's attitude to me. Obviously there has been the gradual evolution from some people treating me like a wee lassie in my 20s, but no major dropping off a shelf at the age of 50. I have a professional job and remain respected in my workplace.

ChaToilLeam · 09/05/2022 07:49

Not in my case.

KangarooKenny · 09/05/2022 07:52

In a way yes.
I don’t have the confidence to start difficult conversations with my DH anymore. As an example, I want to talk to him about the amount of money that’s going out of our savings account, and how much he spends at the shops, but I’ve not got it in me anymore. I wait for the anger to pass and I get over it.
I also feel invisible in my older kids lives. I feel that I was treated badly by one of them recently, and I’ve found it really upsetting. But I can’t say anything as I feel that they will pull away completely.
I think I feel a shell of the person I once was.

11stonesomething · 09/05/2022 08:03

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notprincehamlet · 09/05/2022 20:50

Increment by increment ...

CPL593H · 09/05/2022 20:55

I think about that line from Peter Grimes

"I hear those voices that will not be drowned"

They can't if we don't let them.

Hbh17 · 09/05/2022 21:06

Yes, and it's brilliant. Nobody is interested in me so I don't have to be pretend to be interested in them. I am completely invisible & unimportant, but it's incredibly liberating & you won't care a bit.

100problems · 09/05/2022 21:08

Nope. You only let others make you feel a certain way if you let them.

So don't.

SpeedofaSloth · 09/05/2022 21:09

Not quite 50 yet but I have clearly disappeared so far as a certain demographic of men are concerned. Not a problem in the slightest, I am more comfortable in my own skin than I have ever been and I don't get hassle on nights out. Result.