DB has had a rough few years split with his partner, sharing custody of his children, in a mess with huge amounts of debt etc. All my family have been there for him in particular my sister who has been giving him a lot money.
It has now got to the point though where I feel drained every time I see him. He rings almost daily aswell. He is constantly hinting about how poor he is I think he is hoping I will also give him money (I am in no position to and if I did it would be taking from my DC). Every day there is a drama with his ex that I often think it partially his fault. He does nothing to sort out his financial problems in fact I believe he is now in even more debt. Every time my sister/parents have given him money he goes out with his friends. He keeps saying he will get a debt management agreement but it could affect him renting a house. My sister is already a guarantor on his current house he is renting.
I think my anxiety is I can see this building up and getting worse. If he stops paying his rent I can see him turning up on my doorstep. We have never had the best relationship I almost feel it is now forced because we are sister and brother. When he was with his ex I only saw him afew times a year.
I don't even know what I am asking. I suppose I needed to rant and get it out. I feel drained after the last 3 years of him and his never ending issues.