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Is music less important to you now you're older?

113 replies

Time40 · 07/05/2022 19:28

I love music. It was important to me when I was young, and it has remained very important. The love of music seems to tail off for many people ... how important is it to you now? (Full disclosure - I'm ancient, and I follow the charts. I always have a favourite current song.)

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AllThingsServeTheBeam · 07/05/2022 19:29

I'm 31 and still very much love music.

We have Alexa's in nearly every room and it's rare if there is not music playing in the background

HeddaGarbled · 07/05/2022 19:37

I’m 61 and rarely listen to music now. I like peace & quiet.

littlestpogo · 07/05/2022 19:37

I love music and used to listen to it a lot. However I haven’t really been able to listen to it since my ex left ( following an affair), even though it was several years ago. I think because it can unlock such deep emotions in me and I didn’t have the capacity to deal with them ( or time with two young DC). I’ve just started to listen to it again the last few months which I’m taking as a sign I’m finally near making peace with the hurt. I’m hoping I will be able to have it in my life again fully soon.

squashyhat · 07/05/2022 19:38

Yes although I regret it. I go through phases of listening to old records/cds and still enjoy the odd gig but it no longer plays such an important part in my life. Having said that the one and only proper festival I have been to is back this summer after a 2 year absence and I'm really looking forward to catching up with acts I have seen before and finding new ones.

SausagePourHomme · 07/05/2022 19:38

if you're 31 you're hardly older are you?

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Time40 · 07/05/2022 19:40

I'm 31 and still very much love music

31!!! That doesn't count! That really wasn't that age-range I was thinking about...

OP posts:
AllThingsServeTheBeam · 07/05/2022 19:42

SausagePourHomme · 07/05/2022 19:38

if you're 31 you're hardly older are you?

I'm older than I was when music was my life in my teens. The op didn't specify and age. Sorry was I not allowed to post? I'll private message you next time to see if the post I want to join in on is suitable for me Hmm

LoveSpringDaffs · 07/05/2022 19:43

@Time40
i knew this would be you!!

in addition to my reply on the other thread, it's also for similar reasons to littlestpogo. All the stuff I like is emotional, it reminds me of good times, bad times & fucking awful times, even the memories of the good times hurt and I'd rather not 'go there' , so combined with the brain fog, noise aversion & preferring silence or listening to the birds chirp, silence is golden and NO, it's still not sad.

AllThingsServeTheBeam · 07/05/2022 19:43

Time40 · 07/05/2022 19:40

I'm 31 and still very much love music

31!!! That doesn't count! That really wasn't that age-range I was thinking about...

Consider me told.

AssignedSlytherinAtBirth · 07/05/2022 19:44

Yes. I gave up listening to music pretty much when my dch were born (twins). It was just so hectic when they were young. My lifestyle changed - gave up work, started listening to Radio 4 and Planet Rock. Then something happened to Planet Rock and I can't get them on my radio any more. So I get to hear music in my dance class, and that's it.

tuliplover · 07/05/2022 19:47

I like music, but it was everything to me when I was a teenager (pre internet). I generally listen to Radio 4, in the car jazz fm

cheeseisthebest · 07/05/2022 19:48

Still incredibly important to me (I'm mid 40s is that!) Absolutely love music. Will put airpods in when clearing up, that sort of thing.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 07/05/2022 19:51

Music has been very important for me all my life. I don't think it will change at all.

Chishnfips · 07/05/2022 19:51

There's a radio or music playing somewhere in the house almost always but I don't follow the charts . I listen to variety like Radio 6 or curated playlists.

Bagelsandbrie · 07/05/2022 19:53

I’m 41 and when I was in my early teens going through being bullied music was hugely important to me. Tori Amos effectively saved my life I think. I’d listen to music non stop from when I got in from school to when I went to bed.

Nowadays I enjoy a Spotify list in the car occasionally but I’d never think to put music on at home. I don’t even know why. I think I’ve just become very hardened to things, I’m not so emotional anymore and don’t wish to be either. I find music quite draining.

A580Hojas · 07/05/2022 19:54

No, it is more important to me as I get older. I am having lessons again and I spend many hours on You Tube just watching great performances - pop, classical, street performers, everything. I think being a professional musician is the coolest thing in the world. My 18 year old son is doing music A level and we have some of our best chats about music.

megletthesecond · 07/05/2022 19:56

Still important. I'm 48.
Always have radio 1 on in the daytime. I can't be dealing with old stuff on radio 2. You're a long time dead......

nokitchen · 07/05/2022 19:57

Love it. We are late fifties and still regularly go to gigs

blackheartsgirl · 07/05/2022 20:03

It really depends. Since dh died I have found it very hard to listen to music especially the stuff we liked and a lot of rock as the memories it invokes is just too much.

having said that I do have safe play lists on Spotify and I will google a song I like on the radio and download that.

music invokes such powerful emotions and memories within me that like a pp said it’s incredibly draining and has the potential to send me to a dark place sometimes.

I hope this changes one day for me I really do. I am 44 by the way.

I do like a lot of chat these days..radio 4..bbcradiowales etc. I don’t have to think or feel much then.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 07/05/2022 20:05

It is still important to me and always will be. But several things have changed... firstly none of my same age friends are honestly interested in new music now we're in our 40s, so I'm not being introduced to new stuff through them, or seeing live music with them. And I used to listen to radio and hear new stuff there, but now I tend to stream what I like to the point that I get tired of it. And also my DS protests if I play my music in the car.

So yes, I'm not getting excited about new music like I used to. I miss that.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 07/05/2022 20:09

Ancient. Music very important - listen to it for hours daily. Overtime (alright decades) my taste has broadened and I like to think more accepting and appreciative of a wider range of genres.
but I still say there is nothing like a good piece of Bach!

HistoricMoment · 07/05/2022 20:12

I'm not older by your standards OP but to answer your question, I stopped being interested in music in my mid twenties. I do still occasionally listen to music or the radio at home, but not more than once a week and only because I need to make some boring chore more bearable.

My impression is that nearly all teenagers love music and then many lose interest in it as they grow into adults.

mewkins · 07/05/2022 20:13

It's always been really important and, now in my 40s and with the dc a bit older, I'm getting to more gigs and seeing more live music than ever. I also play guitar most days. I'm nowhere near good but I love playing and singing. I have always loved old music anyway (my dad was a huge motown and 60s and 70s music fan) so still listen to old stuff, discover more through Spotify and through 6music. Music also brings back lots of good memories, especially from growing up.

woodhill · 07/05/2022 20:14

I love it more than ever especially yesteryear pop

TherebytheGraceofGodgoI · 07/05/2022 20:14

56 here and still love music. Spent teenage years listening to the top 40 every Sunday and as an adult would prefer music on rather than the tv.
There was a bit of a blip when I had DS but back to it now although I prefer older music (60’s, 70’s, 80’s) and not much since 2000.