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My DH just left

13 replies

Imthekingsmummy · 07/05/2022 15:53

I asked him to leave and give me space for a few days.
We've not been great together for over a 2 years since ds turned 1 and started to toddle around. He used to get easily annoyed with ds so would shout a lot. He also started speaking to me horribly and assumed that because I stayed at home as a mum that I did nothing despite me reminding him that I never sit still for a minute.
I've got yet another bug from ds and I believe it's because I'm run down as I work in the evenings when ds is in bed.
DH comes in from work and sits for hours watching tv or pottering in his shed.
Never takes turn with childcare even when I ask him to watch ds he ends up wandering back to his shed after 2 minutes.

I reached boiling point today and he's been so nasty in return, calling me awful spiteful names, telling me that I'm pushing him into being violent!

He's left. I'm upset and on edge and totally fed up.

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KangarooKenny · 07/05/2022 15:54

Well done, don’t let him back.

frazzledasarock · 07/05/2022 15:58

Get yourself a solicitor and look to get a Nono molestation order and prohibited steps order, and start divorce proceedings . Make sure his threats of violence are on record.

How old is your child?

if he’s telling you it’s your fault if he gets violent he’s pretty much telling you he’s going to hit you.
tell everyone he’s threatening you.

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Imthekingsmummy · 07/05/2022 15:59

He's never hit me before but he has gotten hold of me, admittedly before DS arrived. DS is 3

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purpleboy · 07/05/2022 16:00

You've done the right thing!! Stay away from him, no good will come from taking him back, he threatened you with violence, and blamed it on you.Shock

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 07/05/2022 16:01

You're pushing him into being violent? Consider that a warning and heed it. When he hits you he will consider it to be your fault. Every time he hits you it will be your fault.
Don't give him a chance.

Lindy2 · 07/05/2022 16:01

He threatened to be violent because you're not prepared to accept his laziness and verbal abuse.

It's just as well he has gone.

romany4 · 07/05/2022 19:33

Do not ever let him back....You're pushing him into being violent?
Unbelievable

SingingSands · 07/05/2022 19:42

Is he coming home? Because I'd be very tempted to tell him not to bother, and phone a locksmith. Pack some clothes for him and leave them on the front step.

Original poster
Imthekingsmummy · 07/05/2022 19:51

I don't know if he's coming home, he wants to. I've had enough though. He text to ask if he could say goodnight to our ds. It's funny because he never normally bothers!

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Pinkpigs · 07/05/2022 20:04

Ring women's aid get yourself out it's not worth staying for women's aid can help please don't let him back in or sweet talk you around

cutebutscary · 07/05/2022 20:06

He has threatened you with violence . Do you have much family support close by ? The safest thing to do would be to leave yourself. I know people say change locks etc , but he doesn't sound like he wouldn't do something like kicking the door in or worse . Get you and your little one safe

Wheresmywoolyjumpers · 07/05/2022 20:36

You are pushing him to be violent? Change the locks and dont let him back in. That is such a scary statement for him to be making.

Aquamarine1029 · 07/05/2022 20:38

You'd be a fool to take this horrible man back. Let him stay gone.

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