Just looking for opinions. I'm an "older" mum to a 21 month old. He is really energetic and a total ball of energy and liveliness. Quite a handful, lovely spirited happy boy but hard work!
Due to my age we need to start trying for another this year as we would ideally like two children if we are lucky enough.
In my heart I do want two children and siblings for each other, as does DH. However, at this minute I don't feel ready because my son is such hard work! He's at nursery only part time so a lot of the week I'm looking after him. My husband works till late so I do all the bath and bedtimes during the week.
Essentially I'm trying to reconcile the want for a second child with the practicalities of looking after my lively son, and the reality of my ticking biological clock.
My question is, I know every child is different, but do you think my son might be a bit easier to manage by the time he's, say, nearly 3? Eg if I was lucky enough to get pregnant this Autumn, and have a baby sometime next Spring, he would be nearly 3.
I'm well aware i can't micro manage my fertility and things may well work out differently, but just thinking through and trying to forecast potential pitfalls in theory.
Eg if I can get my son potty trained that will make life easier if we had another. Also, in Sept after he turns 3 (next year) my son will be attending preschool from 9-3 which might make life easier?
The good thing is he's an excellent sleeper, so I hope that remains!
Overall I guess if I was younger I would wait until my son was clearly easier to manage and able to follow rules, or possibly at school before trying, but as I can't wait that long I'm trying to work out the best way of doing this (again, knowing that nature will have its own ideas).
Any experiences or advice?