bugs, covid aftermath, help

[sheepandcaravan]

I'm on the edge. Please, please be kind and tell me what to do.

Pre covid DD1 started nursery and got the usual hammering. Fine.

Then two years at home, baby now as well.

I am absolutely on my knees sick fed up of it.

She cannot go to nursery without bringing something home. You name it, we have it.

I follow the rules, they are farm kids, outside, good diets blah blah blah.

But others don't. And I get that, I get people have had to sort childcare, fuck I have had to stop work, but what the heck do I do.

I've just spent a bank holiday weekend mopping up sick and snot. Lovely, yes one of those things, but the mother of the children in question, who does not work either, is posting x was sick Wednesday, bouncing Thursday so cleaned house, last day of all at school before busy weekend.

I do not think I can continue to send mine to school when people are so disregarding of others.

I'm terrified to book anything, because one is sick, holidays are one week a year for DH, ruined by bugs. I cannot commit to anything. It's relentless.

At what point would you say, no, I'm done, take them out.

It's making me unwell mentally, yes I'm taking medication but seriously need a break.

Kids being sent in dosed up on calpol, sent home again, mine get it. Sick bug as above, slapped cheek, chest infections, newborn with RSV as sib,img in hospital and they sent other child in.

Yes all children are important but mine are coming off worse every time.

I'm very late to parenting, but friends agree this is way worse then years ago, isolation causing this to be so bad. But if nobody else is prepared to follow basic 48 hour rules does that mean education is just not for me.

Any advice welcome, please. I'm just broken.

Unfortunately it's the same at school op. Most people just do not follow the rules and it's maddening. Reception is the worst. And you are right, lock down fucked it all up. The only glimmer of hope I can give you is that this WILL be building their immunity. I am sending you a virtual hug, wine and flowers! 🫂

Thank you @TheVolturi I'm in tears here.

I just don't know what to do.

Bloody tiny village pre school. What's the point. Any benefit, which there is, is wiped out by the weekends and days after being lost.

Parents taking kids swimming with diarrhoea, guidance says 2 weeks. I'm not talking about a snotty nose, it's the other stuff.

How's it going today op? Hope the little ones are on the mend and you are feeling brighter.

I’m just here to commiserate. We are the same, child taken a battering since September. Easing off slightly but just been in hospital with RSV (plus the triple rhino, endo, enty, argh) yet again, and I’m exhausted. Even the nursery staff have commented on how much he’s suffered since starting.

no advice just here to deep breathe with you. It’s fucking awful and surely it has to stop soon x

@TheVolturi snotty. Gah.

@Littlegoth yes same with baby here.

Nursery day tomorrow.

I'm worrying already.

Seriously there is little point. But then I keep her out and next week is worse, it's relentless

I suppose part of me is Like this is new.

All these children coming together after so long, do I, give up? Admit I can't cope? Continue with it and hope it improves? I just don't know what to do

Keep going op. It will ease off. And it will likely be easier for you then when they start school. It just seems to be particularly bad at the moment, everywhere. Just think of it like this, if you keep them off, you will get absolutely zero child free time. If you keep sending them, then even though they are picking things up, you are still getting SOME child free time, which you definitely sound like will benefit you. This will not last forever.