Anyone share a birthday with a parent (with no partner)

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Does anyone share their birthday with their DM and DF? Do you mind?

I do and if I'm honest I hate it - I enjoy DH's birthday much more. My DM means well but she's a quirky character and needs to be the centre of attention - most of the time so she can just talk at you - it's not relaxing.

Also, we can never chose to do what we'd like for just me as it isn't fair to go out knowing she's home alone. This year, I really fancy staying in with a chinese, but my DM is 81 and wouldn't enjoy. DH suggested the cinema so we don't get talked at, but there's nothing coming up that we'd all enjoy. So, we'll end up going out for a meal at our local (DM doesn't like eating late and DH needs to work until 6pm). Very lucky to be able to do this, but not what I want. With cost of living going up, we can't really justify another night out for me.

Oh, hopefully this isn't DS's fate - he shares a birthday with DH! But he's still tiny so at the moment it's the other way round, DH doesn't really get a birthday because it's all about DS.

Could you not have her round for tea and cake and to give her her present and then have the evening just you and your DH? I agree that you need to celebrate her birthday with her but I don't see why that has to mean a meal out, especially if that then means you can't do what you want at all.

I love sharing a birthday with my mum - we always celebrate extra.

Thanks for your reply. I get where you're coming from, but I think she'd expect to see DH as well and I know she'd like a meal out (no one else to eat out with as she's upset them all!).

We're probably just unlucky. DF passed away while we were on honeymoon, so we've had 27 years of having a joint celebration (most it would probably happen later in a marraige) - DM is still going strong and will run us in the ground, so I think we've got quite a few more years like this. I do appreciate the years when it was the other way around.

Me, I share with my dad. I always loved it, it feels like we have an even greater bond 😊

I share a birthday with MIL, but she's absolutely delightful and I love her, so it's a joy. Not the same thing exactly I know, but I always try to see the positives in it all.