I've just recently split up with my boyfriend. He was in some messed up connection with his ex. Based on what his family and he has told me. The relationship was full of jealousy and suspicions. They had their good times. Holidays etc. She liked the finer things in life. She liked to travel and socialise. He liked the quiet life and few people! He's often complained about her attention seeking behaviour. Needing to be center of attention. He also admitted when she started going on holiday several times a year without him he started drinking and talking to other women.
His family said they were In competition. She wanted to earn the most. He wanted to provide for her. There was a power struggle in terms of her being independent and him obviously not feeling enough. They said she was me me me and he was always trying to spoil her. He spent all his money on her etc.
He has somehow clung onto her. They split 3.5 years ago. He's been with me the last 1.5 years. I dumped him just over 2 weeks ago as I'd recently seen he'd be messaging her again.
They don't want to be together but they don't want to fully let go. So now they just chat. She digs at me. Slags of our relationship and has gone out of her way to keep his attention. He's allowed it and only he knows what's been fully said. But when I've tried to express my dislike for this contact due to the childish level of it he dismissed my feelings saying he won't be controlled.
Is it possible this is still a power struggle. My boyfriend's denied all along if I've asked him but it's so obvious to me now he was likely never over her. Yet it seems like a Game they play to stop the other moving on.