Night owl with lark…how does it work?

[BadAtMaths2]

I’m irritatingly chipper in the morning, often up at 5.30 or 6.30.I’ll go for a walk or garden, clean, naff about.this means that on a weekend by the time dh has surfaced I feel like I’ve had a full day. He’s usually up about 9, so not late late.

by 10pm I’m ready for bed…And not in a good way….

No advice but watching as this is the dynamic in my relationship too.

It's fine as long as other person doesn't expect their DP to change to what we are.
I'm not a particularly early riser, but equally if I'm not in bed by 10.30-11 I just crash. It becomes more of an issue on holiday when DH likes to go to the bar for drinks after dinner - I'm not a big drinker- so end up like the walking dead desperate to go to sleep.
I try to make sure we have evening activities like a show - I can stay awake more easily without alcohol and something to focus on.

Interested in this too. My DH gets up late every day as he’s retired, and apparently it’s his right.

I'm a lark; DH is an owl. Both of us have been flexible when it's called for. DH has had to be more flexible than me over the years because little kid early riding is easier for a lark. Unlike some of you, though, I enjoy burning the candle at both ends occasionally. It's harder when we're on holiday but we do some earlier starts which re-set our bedtime to something more 'me' for a night or two.

You both compromise and understand the other person’s perspective, and not get irritated if the other person goes to bed early or sleeps in later.

OR, have kids and then both your sleep is completely fucked anyway

I like my few hours in the morning. But partner likes to get up later and go to bed early so we accord by bedtime. In fact I follow my natural sleep pattern better in this relationship. Though by about 10 on the weekend I seriously prod them up. Normally wake more at 9 though.

This is me and my dh, except he's the early bird and I'm the night owl, also compounded that he works shifts and gets up at 1am during the week.

Weekends consist of his getting up at 4am, walks the dogs when it gets light, gym at 8am and then brings me a cuppa about 10 ish. He's asleep on the sofa by 6pm (then bed shortly after) so I get to watch what I want, when I want on the telly. I often arrange to meet friends for a cuppa or drink in the evenings after he's gone to bed. It works well for us.

In our relationship, I'm the 'relentlessly cheerful' one who wakes up with the lark. I like having the early hours to myself, they are the most productive ones for me.

DH emerges by lunchtime so we have the afternoon and evening to do things together.

Then, in the evening, I have perfected the art of falling asleep while he watches the TV. He hates the headphones (which I assumed he would use) so I have trained myself to listen to my relaxation even while he has the TV on.

It not how I ever expected my life to be.

Not everyone would be prepared to do that or even consider it reasonable. It doesn't worry me, I always fall asleep when ever I watch TV

It is fantastic when you have kids, caring responsibilities, or dogs. One person can cover each end of the day.

It can also bring you close - intimacy, sex, is a positive choice for both, because we have to make time when we both feel awake, taking account of each other's energy levels at differenttimes of day.

Works for us.