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Tell me about your non-traditional wedding setup

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houseargh · 01/05/2022 20:48

Getting married soon - I have a bridal party of two and DP has the same, so we have four close friends involved. They will inevitably be doing quite a few different things to help out on the day but we'd like them to have more ceremonial roles and clearly be part of the ceremony also, so they're not just glorified helpers!

DP and I are walking together down the aisle as I really didn't want to be given away and that felt most right to us. In my head it doesn't quite look right to have them walk down the aisle ahead of us, as it will just be a series of couples, culminating in us (both bride and groom parties consist of one man and one woman each - pure coincidence). Does that look weird or am I overthinking this?

If you walked down the aisle with your DP but still had bridesmaids/groomsmen, where were they standing / how did they enter?

They're wearing outfits of their choosing / not coordinated, but I'm thinking it would be nice to get small bouquets for the women / buttonholes for the men, as something special to add to their outfit. Would you appreciate that in this role?

In terms of ceremonial roles - two of them will be ring-bearers, but that's about all we have.

Basically, if you had a similar, slightly less traditional setup - what did you do with your brides/groomspeople?

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Kite22 · 02/05/2022 00:15

Not my wedding, but I've seen the 'attendees' walk down the aisle after the couple.
I've also seen them come in first, then a pause, then the B&G - not as 'couples' though - I'd have the two bridesmaids then the two best men following.

But, anything goes really - totally up to you.

One thing to note is that if you have a special pice of music you want to walk in to, it helps to have others 'formally entering the Church or ceremony room' as you get to play more of the music. Otherwise it really only takes a few seconds to get down the aisle.

houseargh · 02/05/2022 07:46

@Kite22 that's a good tip, thanks! The tricky thing about couples is my 'bridemaids' are actually one man, one woman and same for the 'best men' so if we arranged them like that it would look like couples. But then maybe I'm overthinking it!

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