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Can anyone shed any light on this odd/creepy contact?

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OddGoingsOn · 29/04/2022 22:09

I know there are scammers/weirdos but just can’t work out what’s going on here and wondered whether any one else has experienced anything like this and could shed any light.

About 2 months ago, my teenage son’s bike was stolen. Expensive bike he saved towards himself from his paper round. It was locked up at the town and the lock was cut off. Anyway, we were advised by the police to get the photo straight onto social media locally in the hope someone might recognise it etc. That evening I had a friend request from a woman’s name, profile picture woman in her 60s I’d say. Common first name, but spelt ‘wrong’ or at least in a way I’ve never seen it written before. Normally I’d ignore but wondered if it was someone with info about the bike so didn’t accept the request but sent a ‘Hi?’ A response came from this person saying they’d seen my post about my son’s bike and we’re sorry to hear it, and that they’d ask their grandson to keep an eye out as he lives in the same area. I checked the profile and they had joined Facebook that same day, had approx 30 or so friends on there, every single one of which was foreign, mainly Asian sounding names but definitely not local or even British. It all felt so odd so I ignored and forgot all about it. Until yesterday morning at 7:15 or so. I got another message from this same profile out of the blue, in French. I speak French for my job. It said, in French, ‘I hope you have a good day and that your children die’. 😱 I was just leaving for work at the time and when I arrived at work and had chance to look again about an hour later, the message had been ‘unsent’. I was slightly creeped out at this point and did respond saying I’ve reported it to Facebook and will report to the police (didn’t know what else to say!). This person has not been ‘active’ since the minute they I sent that awful message to me. Anyway this person still only has non British Facebook friends (about 100 or so now I think).

I just can’t make sense of it - seeing my post on the local groups about the bike, creating the profile that same day, yet not seeming to actually be from here going from the friends list. Then messaging me in French. Then not being on there since messaging me. It’s a little unsettling! What on earth is going on?

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TopCatsTopHat · 29/04/2022 22:16

It has the whiff of sometone who knows you or knows a bit about you, and either has some sort of issue with you or MH problems of their own which is leading them to do this. I think most people causing a stir for kicks or to enjoy your discomfort would likely not go too far. But now you've said you'll report it etc don't feed the beast, don't tell anyone at work (given the language connection it could be someone connected there)in case they get a sense of satisfaction from seeing they've had an effect, don't engage.

Scarydinosaurs · 29/04/2022 22:18

It’s got to be a typo, surely?

ChanceNorman · 29/04/2022 22:21

It’s got to be a typo, surely?

Or maybe a bad Google translate job? Some of the translations are hilarious they're so off!

Fuckitydoodah · 29/04/2022 22:22

If you speak French for your job, I'd say it's someone you know through work. Are you a French teacher by any chance?

WhiskeyAndGinger · 29/04/2022 22:24

Had you discussed the bike theft at work? I'd look close to home for the culprit if I were you.

OddGoingsOn · 29/04/2022 22:25

I honestly don’t think it’s anyone I know because of the friends they have on Facebook. Not one of the friends even seem to be in this country! And also there was a detail in the French message that was wrong about me

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OddGoingsOn · 29/04/2022 22:27

@WhiskeyAndGinger No. The bike theft happened in the evening and within a couple of hours I’d had the first message. I discussed it at work the day after but not before the message.

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OddGoingsOn · 30/04/2022 13:32

I’m sure it’s not a typo either. All very odd. I just wondered if anyone might know of how these things work with people looking on local sights as some kind of scam maybe. I guess I’ll never know

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Inklingpot · 30/04/2022 13:45

It’s most likely someone trolling you having seen your post about the missing bike. Report to Facebook, block them and forget about it. Some people just love to be cunts.

TickyTok · 30/04/2022 14:03

Almost definitely a mentally unwell troll. Saw your post on the local FB group and created an account to harass you with. All their friends are most likely fake and those sound like typical bot profiles that can be bought cheaply online.

I used to be an admin for an online forum and you'd be amazed how many very unwell and very strange people are out there. They are typically extremely isolated and only have the internet as means of contact with others. This explains why they hover around local FB groups because it gives them a sense of belonging. The anonymity also lets them act even more creepily than real life. Some get a sense of power out of having fake identities and it's also possible that they own 30+ fake profiles so they can befriend themselves to make a profile more plausible.

We used to ban these people on a regular basis and they pop up with another profile. Others do go quiet for a while but then inexplicable come back months or even years later. It's quite sad really because most of these people do not have the funds or support to treat their MH problems and are generally incredibly lonely and isolated. But obviously, it's not any of your concern if you are being targeted by one so just ban and ignore. Definitely don't engage with anything because the attention is what they seek.

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