Can you wear the same colour as the bridesmaids or is that a no-no?

[scabbyqueen]

Close friend is getting married and her bridesmaids are in blush pink, which I'm obviously not wearing.

I liked a dress which is floral and mostly pink, but is that a no no?

@scabbyqueen If it’s patterned I think it would be fine. I wouldn’t wear a plain blush pink dress if that’s what the bridesmaids are in 😊 Does the dress come in another colour?

It was my mum who said it was too close and now I think I'm put off!

So long as it’s a completely different style and definitely patterned then that’s fine. It’s is similar style/length then I’d avoid.

I'd be OK with that as it's a friend and your dress will be patterned.

My sister got married recently, I kept away from the bridesmaid colour because we're family and I didn't want people thinking I was trying to be a faux bridesmaid. It doesn't sound like this could be the situation with you.

Most guests wouldn't even know what colour the bridesmaids were wearing.

I have never known what colours the bridesmaids are wearing.

How can you not know what colours the bridesmaids are wearing? They're the women beside the bride.

Or do you mean beforehand?

I am worried about looking faux bridesmaidy so I think I will keep looking.

Yes, beforehand! Are you supposed to ask to make sure you're not wearing the same, or just hope for the best?!

My friend got married and I asked what colour her bridesmaid was wearing. Navy. I had planned to wear navy. Bride said the only colours she didn't want to see were black, white or red. Phew!

I hasten to add mine was a fine knit shift dress - totally unbridesmaidy.

Meant to add you'll be fine OP.

I accidentally turned up to a uni friend's wedding decked out in the exact wedding colours. I looked a twat and was embarrassed. Don't think the bride and groom were particularly arsed though.

I once turned up to a wedding looking more of a bridesmaid than the bridesmaids :(
I didnt know the bride or groom as they were old friends of my husband so i had no idea what colour they would be wearing. I knew it was bad when we turned up at the church and all the ushers etc had ties the exact colour as my dress! I was in a dark purple maxi dress that i had previously worn on holiday so not too dressy but the bridesmaids were in the exact same colour but their dresses were knee length and more 'relaxed' than mine.
I lay low all day once i had seen the brides 'dirty looks' :(

In all the wedding invitations I have had, not one has mentioned what colour the bridesmaids are wearing.

Often the wedding invite colour is in the colour of the bridesmaid's dresses. We were recommended by our wedding stationary company to do that

@scabbyqueen wedding invitations are usually designed with the bridal colours. So if you get a wedding dress with pink on it, chances are that's what the bridal party will be wearing.

The idea is that you don't turn up in the wedding colours - but if the dress is different enough you should be ok. Would always check with the bride though.

Blimey I’ve never known what bridesmaids dress colours were before the wedding unless very close to the bridal party or a bridesmaid! Ive been to probably 50 or so weddings over the years and this has literally never been an issue.
If the bride and groom are going to be upset if someone else dares wear ‘their colour’ then I’m sure they would have thought in advance to issue a dress code well before the wedding.
My own guidelines are ‘don’t wear white’ and other than that, I’ll wear what I want!

I’d have no idea what the bridesmaids were going to wear. There’s no way of knowing, generally. It’s nothing I would ever think to ask about. How does your mum know? Wear what you like.

None of the wedding invitations I've had recently the invitation has matched the bridesmaid dresses. Two have been green and leafy (bridesmaids pink and blues), one red themed invitation (bridesmaids in their own dresses) and one the invitations went out before the bridesmaids dresses were chosen. My invitations also weren't in that colour.

I had a few ask me what colour bridesmaids were in, but most didn't. As along as you aren't in a solid colour "bridesmaid" looking dress then it shouldn't matter. Wedding guest dresses usually look quite different to bridesmaid dresses.

Surely the majority of guests wouldn't have a clue what colour the bridesmaids are wearing until the actual wedding, so it must happen all the time. Don't worry about it.

I have never seen that.
The last wedding I went to, the bridesmaids were in Cadbury purple. The invite didn't feature that colour at all.

Sounds fine to me op.

I've been to tons of weddings and never known what the bridesmaids were going to be wearing. Why would anyone ask? Wear what you like!

It's a wedding, you're a guest. It's getting silly now!

Floral is fine.

I'm another one who has been to many, many weddings and very rarely known what the bridesmaids would be wearing, as I assume is the same for the overwhelming majority of guests. Never heard of the matching invitation thing.