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Joint party I have to buy for both don’t I?

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TwinParty · 27/04/2022 12:05

DD is 7, Year 3.

She goes to a school with 3 classes per year.

She’s been invited to the party of a classmate who has a twin in one of the other classes.

She knows both twins as she does an activity with both, plays with them both sometimes at playtimes and says they’re both her friend.

But she’s only been invited by the twin in her class. I know it’s a joint party because at the activity this week the twin not in DDs class told her that her and her sister are having a party together, and DD nodded and said she’s going to go.

Do I buy for both twins anyway? Despite doing the same activities both girls are very different so I can easily see DD choosing something different for both.

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 27/04/2022 12:07

How about a box of Twix between them? Wink

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TwinParty · 27/04/2022 12:08

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 27/04/2022 12:07

How about a box of Twix between them? Wink

@TwoLeftSocksWithHoles I laughed at that suggestion thank you

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MissusMaisel · 27/04/2022 12:10

I wouldn't.. One friend, one party invite, one present.

My sister has twins, they have joint parties but are in different classes and have different friends, she would not expect any invited to their party to bring two gifts, just the one for their actual friend. She makes a point of letting people know this.

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Quartz2208 · 27/04/2022 12:12

How about a voucher for both of them and then leave the parents to decide

HappyAsASandboy · 27/04/2022 12:12

As a mum of twins, my view is that you absolutely do not need to but for both.

I held joint parties for them up until 7 years old because it made sense. Each twin invited their own guests and I made no mention of the other twin/joint party anywhere on the invitations in the hope that they'd each only get presents from half of the guests! At their 7th birthday we had 45 kids at the joint party - o really really didn't want 90 presents coming home with us Shock

It is perfectly fine to buy just for the twin that invites your child, or to buy a present for that twin and a mix of malteasers wrapped up for the other twin, or indeed to not buy a present at all .....

NannyGythaOgg · 27/04/2022 12:18

I suspect that the invite being from one twin may be a hint that you only need to buy for that twin. That is only a suggestion but it is what I would do in the position of the twin parent.

If each twin gets to invite 6 people, that is 12 presents per child which often are not needed/wanted or six more decent presents as the budget is quite likely to be pretty much the same.

DeclineandFall · 27/04/2022 12:18

The odd time this happened to us- even if they weren't twins, just friends having a joint party, we all brought one present and then the parents divided them into 2 piles. So one present as the invite was from 1 twin.

MiddleClassProblem · 27/04/2022 12:18

I think if the invite said the party was for one child then that’s fine to get a gift for one and not the other but if it said X and Y’s party then that’s when you should do both of that makes sense.

Lem0nDrizzle · 27/04/2022 12:21

One name on the invite, one present

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/04/2022 12:23

Agree, invite from one, only one gift expected. Though I’d probably give a token thing to other twin, too.

Squeezedsquash · 27/04/2022 12:23

One present.

Had quite a few joint invites where it says something like “this is a joint birthday party but there’s no need to buy a present for any/both/all children. You have been invited by xxx

Sally872 · 27/04/2022 12:24

What does the invite say? If addressed from both twins I would by both. If from one twin I would buy one as parents aware she is guest of one twin.

JurasicPerks · 27/04/2022 12:27

I'd guess the parent has deliberately invited you from just one twin to cut down on the presents. Buy for the one you were invited by.

nearlyspringyay · 27/04/2022 12:29

Present for the name on the invite (I have twins!). Even when kids in DTs class it was somehow very sensibly decided in reception that there would be one name on the invite and the present was for the named one.

Of course I still had to buy two!

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TwinParty · 27/04/2022 15:50

Thanks everyone, think I'll go down the route of present for the inviting twin then sweets or something for the other.

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ifonly4 · 27/04/2022 16:42

I'd buy for whoever's name is on the invite.

Rrrunrunrunrunrun · 27/04/2022 16:51

I had a joint party for my twins on Sat (our first one). Every single person bought them a present each. When we go to parties we take a present from each of them. But…our invite was from them both. In this case I think buying for both or the one on the invite is fine.

Glittertwins · 27/04/2022 18:51

You get a present/card for twin that sent the invite. Nobody had an issue with ours when there was only one name sending them invitations

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