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Tell me a secret…

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BowlMovement · 26/04/2022 23:37

Does anyone have a secret they’d like to get off their chest?

Mine is that although it was mostly bloody awful, I quite liked it on some level when I was in hospital for a few days. Meals cooked, didn’t have to mess about with hair and makeup and clean clothes, and I was warm and had an electric bed.

So. What’s your secret?

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Glovez · 26/04/2022 23:52

The one person that was like a magnet physically is not the one I married. The connection with the other person was sheer electric but it wouldn't have worked long term. I married for love, but sometimes wonder what if..

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BowlMovement · 26/04/2022 23:52

Reasonably light hearted btw, don’t post anything that could get you into trouble!

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Kat1953 · 26/04/2022 23:53

Mine is that although it was mostly bloody awful, I quite liked it on some level when I was in hospital for a few days. Meals cooked, didn’t have to mess about with hair and makeup and clean clothes, and I was warm and had an electric bed

Snap!

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BowlMovement · 27/04/2022 00:07

@Kat1953 😄 I’m not alone then. It was the total absence of any expectation of me. Apart from weeing when the catheter was removed!

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BowlMovement · 27/04/2022 00:07

@Glovez Do you ever see them now? Would you be tempted?

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Glovez · 27/04/2022 19:13

@BowlMovement nope, we have stayed friends but not seen each other in person for about 15 years, too risky!

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BowlMovement · 27/04/2022 19:31

@Glovez Wow! That sounds really…difficult! Nice to daydream about maybe.

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BarrowInFurnessRailwayStation · 27/04/2022 20:32

I currently have a virus and I'm happy laying in bed all day whilst dh fetches me cups of tea 🤭

I did do the vacuuming whilst he went to the shop though.

DinosaursEatMan · 27/04/2022 20:36

@Glovez
Me too

Maydaysoonenough · 27/04/2022 20:38

I was off work Monday and Tuesday.. After the school drop offs I went back to bed til 12.... Nobody knows.!

Mollypolly2610 · 27/04/2022 22:42

I tell everyone I am up with the dog at 7am. I don't tell anyone that once she's done her business and had her breakfast we go back to bed. (I'm 66 and that's my excuse)

Oceanus · 28/04/2022 00:18

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Withdrawn at poster's request

LowbrowVictoriana · 28/04/2022 00:27

I have the most overwhelming and consuming crush on my daughter's boyfriend's dad.

jewishmum · 28/04/2022 00:42

I told my child that Blippi is dead to get her to stop asking to watch it.

Cakeandcoffee93 · 28/04/2022 00:49

I’m sorry but what! ? Surely you’d do anything within your power to protect this child? I’d move in with her!! This child has reached out to you? Have you told her mum? That’s a big secret 😪

Cakeandcoffee93 · 28/04/2022 00:50

Can you not appeal her being with her mum? This is horrible z

Wowwwww · 28/04/2022 00:54

omg please save this innocent child before her mother kills her. Do anything you can to get her away from her abusers. That’s so sad to read

NearlyHeadlessNick · 28/04/2022 00:59

Oceanus - I can't believe what I've just read - this child needs protecting😨

Nameynameynamechangeroo · 28/04/2022 01:03

Oh I have so many secrets.

My child's dad isn't actually their dad, dc is coming up for 9 now and I haven't a clue how to tell them. DC was conceived forcibly when I was spiked and them I jetted with, what I think was, heroin at a party, and I'm not really sure who the dad is. I am dreading the future with online ancestry being so freely available. I NEVER want dc to know the circumstances of their conception. The only reason I didn't have an abortion was because I was in denial for months.

I was abused as a child, horrifically, it has left me with lifelong trauma and medical issues. When I found out the man who abused me was in hospital with fully functioning brain but trapped in a body he couldn't move I visited him and verbally tortured him, I told him all the things he hated to hear, his eyes filled with tears as I called him a paedophile (he really hated that word) I told him that I would make sure he was cremated (biggest fear) and read bits of the scripture of his religion basically saying he was a sinner and would go to hell for his crimes and he deserved eternal damnation. Then I laughed in his face and walked out. He died 2 days later. I'm not even sorry.

I have a shed that the kids aren't allowed into. They think I store presents in there, in reality (can't believe I'm admitting this) I have practically everything we need to maximise our chances of surviving a nuclear attack, chemical attacks, a flood, if we are out of electric for a length of time, just about any medical emergency you could think of I have a stash of water and powdered soup and eggs, I have medical grade equipment, maps, hand cranked radio, cb radio, power banks, a small generator, inflatable boat.... so much stuff I've been collecting for nearly a decade 🤣🤣 I feel like a crazy person but having all that stuff keeps me calm. If my kids ever knew I think they would disown me.

Oceanus · 28/04/2022 01:10

The mother is the one making it happen. She's the monster.

Giggorata · 28/04/2022 01:14

I don't blame you, given some of your life experiences, it isn’t inconceivable that you would plan to be as safe as possible in the face of disaster.. you sound brave and resolute to me. I wish I had the stash that you have.
I also think your abuser deserved to hear the things you told him.
And there are kinder ways of finally telling your DC about their origins without outright lying.

As for my secrets, they are mostly other people's, don't know why people tell me them, perhaps for some kind of absolution, and they will die with me.

Oceanus · 28/04/2022 01:14

I know but I can't do anything and not being able to help her is killing me slowly. I just lay awake in bed thinking about this. I can't do anything! Not a single thing.
The mother's bipolar and has threatned to kill herself over the years. We know but the judge won't get her medical records, so technically we know but we can't say it court because we can't prove it, so we said it we'd be liars trying to alienate her the child from her mother.

Oceanus · 28/04/2022 01:21

I personally complained to the court. I wrote them an email saying my niece should have been given the benefit of the doubt regarding the truth of what the said, instead having been as liar from the start. I said that was the only reason to explain her staying over at her mom's.
I also called pretty much everyone I could think of to say this kid is at risk and the judge saw it as "the child being around people who aren't fit to be with her" because she's not living in a peaceful environment. I'm too much a problem because I don't keep my mouth shut and the judge doesn't like that.
I shouldn't have posted this here but it just came out really...

Cakeandcoffee93 · 30/04/2022 00:17

God that must be so frustrating. At least you know you did everything you could x

Ruralbliss · 30/04/2022 00:22

I got told the interview I had yesterday was successful so I'll be promoted into a leadership role but can't tell anyone just yet.

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