Sorry if this sounds petty.
For the last 10 or so months, my friend has been having what I can only describe as an emotional affair. She’s in a long term relationship but has also been talking to someone else at the other side of the world, online and on text, but keeping it a secret from her partner and the guy she’s talking to thinks she’s single. They’ve sent photos etc.
Anyway i kept it to myself because it’s not my business at the end of the day, although I strongly disagree with what she’s been doing and i am also friends with her partner, but it’s not my problem. That was until she informed me she’s been telling her partner that I was having a mental health crisis and that she was at my house, when she was actually talking to this other guy on the phone but needed an excuse to be out the house.
This went on for a while before I told her it was really affecting me, but she never actually apologised for how much it had bothered me. I was feeling like I couldn’t trust her, and also hated that her partner thought I was burdening her with a load of mental health stuff when really she was going behind his back. She told me she’d stopped talking to this guy but I knew she was lying, and eventually she admitted that she had lied and was in fact in love with this man.
We were really good friends but the other day I told her how much it had upset and hurt me and she said she was sorry and that she should never have done it, but for the first time ever in my whole life, I am really struggling to accept the apology. It’s been two days and I’ve not spoken to her, whereas before we would talk every day either on the phone or text.
Am I being unreasonable and should I just move on? Or is it normal to be hurt? I feel really conflicted. I haven’t seen her in person since the chat, but I just feel really betrayed and genuinely really hurt. Not sure when to say enough is enough and call it quits or whether to forgive and forget.