Sister has said something so hurtful

[lifewithsomeonespecial]

She is deluded too.

She has been seeing this man for two dates and yesterday was her third.

My sister spoke to him about me and mentioned how terribly sad it was etc that I had lost 3 DD's shortly after birth

She is really upset. He expressed that he was deeply concerned that it would be genetic and what if she was like that? She said she didn't think it was genetic

He said it's a big risk as he wants lots of DC...

I'm worried that she is for whatever reason very taken by this man. He is 30. She is 20.

She cried when she told me. I thought she felt bad for me but no, she felt bad he wasn't really prepared to 'risk it' because of me.

She said she should never have told him...

I think it all sounds dodgy and like she's potentially vulnerable to control and manipulation from his actions alone and her finding herself the guilty one

First of all sorry for your losses.

She shouldn't have even mentioned it tbh.

@Lem0nDrizzle she seems very cut up about it

I'm a little worried for her

Wow. He sounds like a shit and she sounds very immature to have relayed the conversation. Sorry for your losses.

Why is she telling a stranger your most personal details? You should be getting angry with her and tell her to zip it.

Is she one of those drama queens who needs everything to be about her? is so then maybe its time to back away.

for your losses

She sounds very immature discussing your private life to a stranger . You should be annoyed with her . It’s possibly she likes the drama , I also find it odd a 20 year dating a 30 year old and thinking about children on the 3rd date . Odd ! it was never going to work and yes I’d be a little worried about her too op .

Well, @lifewithsomeonespecial, it's not often I would say it, but fuck me, that's special isn't it?
Your 'D'sis has made your losses all about her, hasn't she?
I think you're a very forgiving person to be even a little bit sorry and sympathetic for / to her. I'm not sure I could be that generous.

I’m sorry for your losses but I worry for a woman who overshares so much on date 3.

She is 20 and telling a stranger your personal information and crying because this stranger is worried he might not be able to have his imaginary children with her at some stage in an imaginary future together. I would tell her to pull herself together and be glad he has shown himself for what he is. Yes she is absolutely open to manipulation and control and also very immature and showing no empathy.

Two dates?!! Wtf??? They both sound as mad as a box of frogs. I’m sorry but she’s massively overshared and he sounds incredibly intense and bunny boiler ish for date 2!

I am so sorry for your losses.

It's perfectly reasonable that you are angry with your sister, but in your shoes I'd be worried about her. She seems both immature and very vulnerable.

Long story short; immature needy girl needs protection from weird as fuck bloke.

Exactly this though I'd add self absorbed to both of them.