Following a discussion with husband about a close friend I’ve recently lost touch with, I’m after unbiased opinions.
15 year long friendship, very close. Shared many ups and downs over the years with mental health problems on both sides. Stood by each other’s side through periods where they didn’t have many others.
Recently friend began stepping away from messaging (although they used to spend many hours a day talking). I have tried to be supportive and give friend space, but at one point felt a bit offended and as if the friendship was now one sided. Friend denied anything being wrong, said they were just busy. Friendship continued on friends terms, I didn’t feel I was overly pushy, gave space and said things like “message when you feel up to it, am here for you if you need me”.
After some months of some of my messages being ignored and others answered, friend messaged they’d be in touch the following day. Radio silence followed, so I messaged briefly just hoping friend was okay. Message seen and ignored for nearly 2 months.
As mentioned there have been mental health problems on both sides over the years so I truly do understand sometimes you can’t cope with talking. But it would have been nice to get a message to explain as much - it would have been both appreciated and respected.
I guess what I’m asking is - would you try messaging again or continue to leave the ball in their court?
Should add, I do feel quite hurt by it all because it happened at a very rough time of year for me on the very day I lost a beloved family member, which friend is aware of.
Thank you if you got through my essay, sometimes you just need a vent as well.