Turning 40.. love it or hate it, crisis or new found life????

[Darcy37]

40 crisis or other?
How did you all cope with turning 40?
Has your outlook on life changed?
some of my friends have found it difficult with the idea of being 40, others don’t care. I have decided to not care so much what people think. To enjoy life a bit more & do some things just for me.
I wanted belly button pierced even though I’m by no means thin, I done it, loved it until had to take it out for an op. DH loved it, thinking of getting it redone.
Tattoos, always wanted my 3D butterfly well now I have it on my hip, a 2nd one that is being added to & plans for 3rd & poss 4th if I decided to get flower on my foot.
Piercing…. Well I’ve now 3 lobes both ears, tragus, daith, flat due to be reopened this week. Conch getting it in few weeks. Seriously would love nipples done, want them for me & DH but not for public view.
Hair… getting colour done in 2 weeks. Planning adding copper, red & chocolate high lights to my blond hair & poss a wee plum streak too. Keep in mind I alway only have simple darker blonde streaks so will be big change.

Booked 2 concerts this yr, hoping a weekend away in Europe somewhere.

what u all do after turning 40?
Crisis or Fun times??

Neither, just life as normal

same for all my friends.
we had a birthday party and then just carried on as we had been, no one acted like the world had just changed

Fun times for me... also heading towards 50, which is even better now that my children are all 21+

Fab times !

40 is no age. Do whatever you want. Why are you asking for permission?

Life continued as normal ........... The calmness and the wisdom and the peace that I could sense in the distance, I didn't know how to make this happen. I still had a four year old (and a 7 year old) and it's only since I was about 47 and I felt 50 coming and felt some emotions around that (what were they, not even sure) that I nearly began to feel more resilient, better able to respond instead of reacting, construct a life that suits me.

I turned 40 a few months ago. I was fine at the time and I don't care about the ageing part, but I am now having a full on crisis about my career. It seemed fine to think I'd achieved basically nothing while I was still in my 30s. I am very fearful of the prospect of saying the same when I am 50.

Problem is, I don't know what I want to do. That's the real crisis. What the hell do I do with the rest of my working life?

I didn't mind, I'm rapidly approaching 50 and couldn't care less, I'm growing out my hair colour and have lots of silver streaks, couldn't care less about that either or what anyone thinks about it.

I found getting older liberating if anything.

I don't think "life begins at 40" like it used to anymore. I had quite young children and was still in the drudgery stage at 40.

I did however, learn to stop caring what others thought, which made a big difference.

For me the 40s is a really important decade to take care of yourself because now, in my 50s I'm loving life, whereas friends who put on a lot of weight and became unfit in their 40s (easily done) seem real old now. I don't mean how they look, I mean how they live and what they're able to do.

40 was no different to 30, just a few more wrinkles and grey hair! I'm assuming 50 will be more or less the same, again with more lines and grey hair.... (almost 47).

I got married at 40 and started my family. So it was a huge year, but not so much that it was 40 more what I did.
I've just turned 60 and that did feel way more momentous in terms of a number.

I’m 33 so a bit to go yet. I think once you hit milestones you do think about your life and where it’s going. That’s only natural.

I was excited to hit 30 as I knew this was the decade I would say goodbye to pregnancy/babies/toddlers. I care much less now about what others think and in that respect I am enjoying my 30s. I also sleep a lot more and I am making gains in my career (as I stayed at home for a large chunk of my 20s raising small ones).

When I hit 40 my “kids” will be 19, 18 and 14, and one goal is to study a masters degree part time before I hit 40.

When I hit 40, I've just carried on as normal!

I spent my 40th with my head down the loo pregnant with my third and suffering from extreme morning sickness.

Im 42 now. lIfe was shit before 40, it’s shit after!

Nothing changed, didn't even have a party (never had one for the other 39 years so why change that).Same when I hit 50. Still going to gigs, still kickboxing, still doing everything I did before.

No reason to feel weird about turning 40. It means absolutely nothing, it's my age, which is how many years since I was born, and that’s it.

I look good because I want to look good and make sure to look good.

I'm happy because I want to be happy and make sure to be happy. I built a life I wanted. I love my life. I love being a mum. One thing about being older is I feel bad that I won't be around for more of my daughter’s life than someone who had had children at, say 25, and if I'd had had better guidance I would have had them then, and had more than one.

It's very personal isn't it but I live my life for me and no one else, and being part of a family and working in a family unit and easing into that has been a godsend. I had bad mental health the last couple of years and now I feel so glad about all I have.

I'm looking forward to getting older. I want to get more fit but I'm more than happy with everything.

You can have a crisis at any age. I knew someone who was distraught about turning 30. I had a very prolonged crisis in my early 30s when I was trying to decide about babies, and was miserable at work, and a long friendship was coming to an end and all sorts of other stuff. I'm sure there are other crises to come!

I found out I was pregnant for the first time 3 days before my 40th birthday. More important than the birthday!