What would you do?

[PutThatAway]

At 34 would you go ahead with a pregnancy where you weren’t 100% sure about the relationship?

He’s a decent man, works a lot so don’t see him loads and my evenings are often spent alone until 8pm. He’s taken care of me when feeling nauseous and bought nice food in etc. I do love him and before this I don’t think I would have ended things but obviously the pregnancy has focused the mind! He can annoy me a bit. I can’t say for absolutely certainty I see a future and now I’m wracked with guilt wondering if that means I shouldn’t go ahead.

Do you have other children?

I'd be thinking:

• could I go it alone if the relationship broke down


• do i want children


• if I terminate would that mean the relationship ending? if so am I worried it might take say 3 years before I am at a 'making baby' time with someone else and how d i feel about that at say 37


• how supportive might he be, will he change working patterns etc

Best wishes whatever you decide.

Sounds like he'd be a great co-parent if you wanted to keep the baby?

I would view the child and the relationship as entirely separate things. Do you want a child? I don't see 'the relationship might not work' as a reason to terminate a pregnancy. I'm not against termination at all, if you don't want a child then you don't have a child. But don't base it on someone else's potential behaviour.

@crackingreward thanks. My concern is that if we didn’t stay together then I would want to be closer to family which is a few hours from him and his job. I worry that would harm the child.

Your child won't be harmed by having a loving, supportive family.

I would look at the picture from the perspective if being a single parent.

If I felt I could cope alone then I would keep the pregnancy.

Have you discussed both of you moving nearer your family for support?