How to be more ‘sexy’

[lauralovez]

Title says it all really bit embarrassed to ask?

DF makes me feel amazing and constantly says I am but I look in the mirror and wonder how he thinks that?

I’m a size 10 and have 0 boobs. I feel like I have no sex appeal due to my B cups , my bum is peachy. Not massive but perky

ive always wanted big boobs my small ones have made me self conscious forever, when I had DS I was hoping they’d grow in pregnancy and they didn’t :( the only time they were is when my milk came in!!

It’s more of a personal insecurity of mine but is there anything I can do to feel more attractive I guess?

i look in the mirror and wonder how DF could ever be attracted to me

Sexiness is 100% about confidence and nothing to do with how you look, truly.

I'm overweight, by a lot. But I feel sexy when DP and I are together, and it comes across as confidence and DP finds it incredibly sexy. He says it's in the way I look at him, the way I move, the way I touch him. I feel powerful when we're together, even though normally (out of the bedroom) I hate the way I look. But I still feel confident when we're in bed because I know he finds me sexy.

I do have some lingerie that I wear occasionally, that make me feel good. Things that hide the parts I don't like about myself but still feel pretty and feminine and make me feel good, and that makes me feel confident.

If you had boobs and no arse you'd want an arse. There will always be something that we don't like about ourselves and wish we could change. And barring surgery, you cant. So why bring yourself down?

You have a great bum. A small figure. A fiancé who loves you and thinks you look great and is attracted you. Why shouldn't he be?

Sexiness isn't about boobs or bottoms or clothes sizes.

It's about confidence, happiness, a sense of fun. The normal (not stereotypical) sexy women I know are relaxed, interesting, confident. They laugh often and don't take themselves too seriously.

Your DH obviously finds you sexy, that's wonderful.

Don't try to change how you look, but I would work on your inner confidence and happiness.

Also, I've got bizarre boobs. They're tubular breasts so they're missing part of the 'normal' breast shape in the middle as they didn't develop properly in puberty. They're not really small but they point downwards and outwards and my nipples are at the bottom hanging down. I hate them, especially out of a bra.

But DP loves them, because they're mine. And he loves me.

if you think sexiness is down to big boobs I’m afraid you’re mistaken. That’s like the “ Loaded” or “Nuts” version of sexiness. Sexiness is entirely individual but there’s a lid for every pot as they say. If you were very large there would be a man into that. If you were a body builder there would be a man into that. Try and appreciate what you have now because in 20 or 30 years when it’s all heading south you’ll look back and wonder what the hell was wrong with you.

Yeah I need to try and fake it till I make it I guess

my confidence is quite low. DF makes me feel amazing but when I have a brief moment when I realise how self consious I am it affects things

hes the sweetest ever and doesn’t ever complain but a lot of the time I think it gets in the way of sex (I’ll wear t shirts to cover my top half and ask to have the lights out) and I really want to explore more in sex

Me thinking I’m not ‘sexy’ and feeling self consious is getting in the way. DF says he’s very happy sexually and with our sex life but I know he’d like me to take my top off/switch lights on etc he asks politely I just feel so self consious about myself

This is a self esteem issue. Work on your self esteem as a valid and valuable human being and acknowledge your good qualities, your warmth and humour etc.

sexual attraction isn’t actually a butchers shop, it isn’t slabs of meat in conventionally acceptable formations.

I keep reading this as your dear father...

@Horizons123 Pardon?

DF means dear father
DH is husband, DP is partner

Me too! Fiancé didn’t occur to me until someone else mentioned it.

LOL I mean fiancé!! Definitely not my father

Ah, fiancé. That didn't occur to me either!
Not that I actually thought she meant father...

You don't need to have big boobs to be sexy. What a weird take!

Sexiness isn't about boob size, come on you know that.

Find out what does make you feel sexy, sometimes you need to exaggerate it to feel it. Have a bath and a glass of wine, make yourself feel amazing. Put some nice underwear or whatever you feel confident in on... Create a nice ambiance but no lights off completely.... Try to find your sexy whatever that means for you. Then once you've done that a few times, try to get that feeling without the full works.

Just going to say btw I’m not saying small boobs can’t be attractive!

a big insecurity of mine is my small boobs and I’ve always felt self consious in the bedroom because of it

Dont want anyone to think I’m saying because you have small boobs you can’t be attractive this is just a personal insecurity xx

Sex appeal has nothing to do with how you look on the outside outside. You can have all the work done and still have the personality and appeal of a potato. It’s definitely something that comes from within.

I used to feel like that too. I got breast implants 15 years ago and my insecurities disappeared instantly. I’ve been happy with my body ever since!

I haven’t wanted any other surgery since, either, or decided I was insecure about anything else. It was just that one issue that made me feel pretty crap overall.

So that’s just another perspective for you, but no amount of work on my self esteem or therapy would have helped me. What I wanted was breasts instead of a flat chest and when I got them it improved my life and happiness significantly.