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Block and delete 🙄

38 replies

TheRossatron · 23/04/2022 09:54

Am I the only one who thinks this is SO fucking immature? Everytime I hear the word "block" my shit cringes. Yes if someone is harassing you then totally block them fair enough. But people seemingly do it just to stamp their feet and throw a tantrum. I had an olympic sized fall out with a friend a couple of years ago, she randomly sent me a happy new year message on watsapp in January, I replied politely but vaguely as I don't want to restart the friendship. She obviously realised this... and blocked me. Righto. People on here or in real life have dates with men who end up not being interested or just walk away after a one night stand or whatever... and then block them. You know you could just ignore them in the unlikely event they will message you again? Because if the person you are blocking doesn't give a shit anyway and has no intention of bothering you - you just look like a prize knob. Grow the fuck up. Please.

There, my Saturday morning rant is over. I'm off out for a walk. Peace x

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WhiteFire · 23/04/2022 10:29

I got defriended and blocked for (politely) stating that I objected to the term cis.

That obviously is a very bad thing to say.

WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 23/04/2022 10:33

Blocking is fine. Why leave communication open to someone you don't want to hear from? Confused

MaryAndHerNet · 23/04/2022 10:34

Block and delete is good advice for women on dating apps.

If you're never going to speak to them again, why wouldn't you stop their avenues of contact? It could save you from a lot of harassment before it even starts.

It sounds like you've been blocked and deleted and you're the one throwing the tantrum, you could just ignore when people block you instead of Ranting on mn and looking like a prize knob.

AHungryCaterpillar · 23/04/2022 10:36

I don’t know, I get your point but some people know they can be weak and easy manipulated and know that if they leave it open and they message them again they might be tempted to give them another chance so in those situations yes I do think blocking is best if You know you will let that person get back in your head again and it’s also a clear sign that you don’t want anymore contact whereas if you leave it open it suggests you are welcome to contact again in the future.

DorritLittle · 23/04/2022 10:39

I have blocked two old boyfriends. It wasn't immature, it was the only answer. I can imagine it's common in dating sites if someone a man isn't getting the message.

For friends I agree, it seems a bit extreme.

PeaceLurking9to5 · 23/04/2022 10:39

I think it"s good advice but often posters think they have fix things or get through or be heard or... re connect and it'd be more useful (but hurtful) to acknowledge that this mess or this relationship cannot be fixed or resurrected or spun around to suit you. So, i get that block and delete is a version of that.

TheDuchessOfMN · 23/04/2022 10:40

I agree with you. I see it all the time on the threads here too.
Eg, “My date didn’t go well”. MN responses: Block and delete.

What happened to being polite, and/or a grownup? Just tell the person you’d rather not see them again 😐

AngelaRayner4PM · 23/04/2022 10:48

When internet dating block and delete seems like very good advice. When dealing with an abusive individual, absolutely. But I think all too often people block people instead of trying to resolve it in any other way

WhiteLightTrainWreck · 23/04/2022 10:59

It depends on the situation. I fell it with a friend a couple of years ago. Because we shared the same group of friends, at different times in 2021 we both reached out and tried to repair the friendship. When I did it she wasn't ready and she told me, fine. Then she reached out to me. We were talking, planning to meet up and talk things through.
I then discovered she had been saying the complete opposite to another friend how she "couldn't bear to be in the she room as me/didn't trust we could be civil" etc etc.
I blocked her on every platform as I felt I couldn't repair a friendship with someone who could discuss it with me but drag other people into needless drama by saying the opposite. We're both in our 30s ffs.

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TheRossatron · 23/04/2022 11:05

MaryAndHerNet · 23/04/2022 10:34

Block and delete is good advice for women on dating apps.

If you're never going to speak to them again, why wouldn't you stop their avenues of contact? It could save you from a lot of harassment before it even starts.

It sounds like you've been blocked and deleted and you're the one throwing the tantrum, you could just ignore when people block you instead of Ranting on mn and looking like a prize knob.

But why assume harassment would start at all? You obviously think a lot of yourself! 🤣

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MaryAndHerNet · 23/04/2022 11:07

TheRossatron · 23/04/2022 11:05

But why assume harassment would start at all? You obviously think a lot of yourself! 🤣

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Go to the dating thread on here.
Ask them how often it happens.

Clue: a lot.

Pyri · 23/04/2022 11:07

Because if the person you are blocking doesn't give a shit anyway and has no intention of bothering you - you just look like a prize knob.

how do you look like a knob if they don’t know you’ve blocked them?

MaryAndHerNet · 23/04/2022 11:14

I know reading is hard for some, here's a handy dandy infographic.

Block and delete 🙄
TimBoothseyes · 23/04/2022 11:31

I blocked my former employers this week. 8 times they have rang asking if I would consider going back (community support role that I left 7 months ago). As they weren't taking "no" for an answer then the only way I could convey that I wasn't interested was to block them.

FlibbertyGiblets · 23/04/2022 11:36

I am glad you think harassment is a result of someone thinking they are special, or that ordinary women are not worth being bothered by entitled blokes, because you have not suffered this horrible stuff. You are very lucky.

XiPooh · 23/04/2022 11:38

I replied politely but vaguely as I don't want to restart the friendship.
So why does it matter she blocked you, you don't want to restart the friendship, she has got that hint now,

XiPooh · 23/04/2022 11:44

*ffs it cut off the end, but what difference does it make to you if she's blocked you, you aren't going to talk to them, doesn't impact on you that she's blocked you and wants that clean break. You say you don't give a shit, but you clearly do 🤷‍♀️

Cryingintherain99 · 23/04/2022 11:57

I think it's fine to block someone you don't get on with.
You said yourself, OP, that you didn't want to restart the friendship which was why you gave a cool response to her new year message.
She responded by blocking you, so she clearly got the message.
Isn't that what you wanted?
Why leave communication open when your friendship has clearly run dry.
What's the point of having someone sat there like an ornament having no input in your life, unless you want to stick around to nose at their social media posts. I just don't see the point in it.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 23/04/2022 12:11

Your friend messaged you. You replied in a way she realised you didn't want to keep the relationship. She blocked you. You are not happy she blocked you, but why? You shut her out first, so it won't affect you anyway. You are hurt, right? But don't you think she was hurt too?

WeDontShutUpAboutBruno · 23/04/2022 14:24

TheRossatron · 23/04/2022 11:05

But why assume harassment would start at all? You obviously think a lot of yourself! 🤣

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Do you think harassment is some sort of compliment? Confused

No wonder you were blocked, what a weird attitude.

SophieSoSo · 23/04/2022 14:27

Why on earth would I leave the door open for someone I never want to speak to again?

Its not a temper tantrum, it’s removing the ability for them to contact me. I don’t want to ignore a message - especially from my ex, because once he sees it’s delivered, he will message again. And again….

I block because I don’t want to hear from them again, this is my phone - I get to choose who can and can’t access me.

Downunderduchess · 23/04/2022 14:57

I purposely don’t block them, so they definitely know I’m not responding to them. Petty perhaps but I won’t give anyone the satisfaction of thinking I cared enough or was upset enough to block/delete them. I just get on with my life and ignore any messages that may come.

Suprima · 23/04/2022 15:04

I don’t really want to leave the door open for people are going to harass or annoy me

i don’t really give a shit about appearing immature

they aren’t commending you for your moral fibre and being the bigger person by not blocking them 😬

Heliotropium · 23/04/2022 15:19

Because if the person you are blocking doesn't give a shit anyway and has no intention of bothering you - you just look like a prize knob. Grow the fuck up. Please
There, my Saturday morning rant is over

You probably annoyed her when you made it clear you didn't want to restart the friendship, so she wanted to annoy you back and she's certainly succeeded, judging by what you've written.

Kitten2 · 23/04/2022 15:25

How did you know she had blocked you?