Social anxiety - what works for you?

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I'm going to an event later where I only really know the host. I was looking forward to it, but now it's here I can't quite stamp out the bubbles of dread. Part of the issue is that, looking at the list of other attendees, everyone is very close to the host. I'm more of a recent friend and I wonder if she invited me on a bit of a whim.

It's stupid because I'm sure everyone will be lovely, I like people so it's not like I'll be scowling in a corner😅but I'm just not sure I'm great at leading conversation when I'm nervous. With how close everyone is, I'm concerned I'm going to be the dud that someone ends up next to at the sit-down meal element.

Why is the human brain like this?! Why can't I just turn up and be normal? What works for you if you feel similarly? Thank you all 😊

Hello.

I feel your pain!! But you are over thinking. What's likely to happen I think is, you'll turn up, be welcomed warmly, and can then sit back and watch people who love each other and know each other well have fun. You won't be in the spotlight.

I was never very good at socialising. But being in a bit of a group now has taught me SKILLS. To listen, to ask good questions, to give good answers, to occasionally be funny, and to be silent and let others handle hot potatoes.

I hope you have an enjoyable evening. X

When I have to go events like this I look around and see who else looks alone/awkward. There's usually someone and they are so grateful if you get them out of that spot by having a chat with them. You might even end up having a good time.

Thank you both, really appreciate that! Yes, good point that I'm not going to be in the spotlight. I think deep down I'm feeling like I'm going to be exposed as not being as close to the host as others but appreciate that's probably ridiculous. And definitely - if there's another person who's also a bit out on a limb that will probably be an easier way to get a conversation going.

Think about it this way. Exposed?? They are going to see you as a breath of fresh air! A new person, an insight into their friend's life. Its actually a huge compliment that she has invited you really...x

Ah @something2say you are wonderful 💐that's a really refreshing way of looking at it. Thank you!