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Would you feel bad if your family had all had a get together without you

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 22/04/2022 22:31

So mum went to one of my siblings on Easter Sunday fair enough
then my other sibling got invited down

woudk that make you feel a bit crap or would you not be bothered or even relieved ?

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CanIPleaseHaveOne · 23/04/2022 00:17

They did, and I did.

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 23/04/2022 08:20

If this happened to you and you felt hurt how did you react?ive been awake since 430 feel shitty
ironically when I called to see my mum for an hour on the way to see a friend
when She told me about this
I was in a really good mood, had had a brilliant day, was looking forward to my evening
and she just makes me feel so deflated and crappy
i think All I Can really do is focus my attention on where it counts and is appreciated and take a big step back
esp form mum as she the one who always wants me to know these things

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AchillesPoirot · 23/04/2022 08:21

Did you already have other plans for Easter that they knew about?

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 23/04/2022 08:24

went went for a pub lunch but they didn’t know about that

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thebeespyjamas · 23/04/2022 09:20

No because I refuse to let things like this get to me. I gave it up, completely. I don't care what other people do. If I get invited, lovely, if not, I have other things to do.

I made this conscious decision years ago.

Solongtoshort · 23/04/2022 10:58

This has been a regular occurrence for me, my sister has a New Year’s Eve party every year and l don’t get invited and she puts photos on Facebook of the “whole family”,my dad asked me why l didn’t ever come this year l told him l have never been invited.

l came to say l let it go but l have just deleted a huge reply and realised l obviously don’t let it go, but honestly l am now low contact with my “whole Family” l just see my parents mainly now. I was asked to Easter dinner by my brother but l felt like an after though as it was only in the Saturday l got asked, again a “whole family” picture was posted by my sister.

knowinglesseveryday · 23/04/2022 11:01

workworkworkugh · 22/04/2022 23:14

A similar thing happened to me before.
My brother was playing in a band at a small venue only 15 minutes from my house. My whole family went, aunties, uncles, cousins and their kids, I mean everyone.
No one even told me it was happening.

I'm usually pretty close to my family so I was so hurt and upset.
Apparently a few people asked where I was and my Mum told them I was probably just busy/didn't want to go and when I asked my Mum afterwards why no one had told me about it she just said that I didn't ask...but how am I supposed to ask about something I had no clue about Confused

Sometimes that's about reflected glory. One of my kids has been especially successful in life, and it still amazes me how many of our relatives want to be around when they are here. It doesn't reflect well on them.

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LovelyYellowLabrador · 23/04/2022 12:34

Thanks for your advice and hearing me
I’m going to hide this thread now as I just want to get it out my head now best I can

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workworkworkugh · 24/04/2022 11:12

@knowinglesseveryday I get what you're saying.
In this instance my brother was playing in a tiny band at our local winery, not so much successful as the family going to support him for his first time.

Well done to your DC.

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