Was he right to do this?

[Lostmojo]

Myself and my husband have been going through a difficult time. I was due to have some treatment privately which is very much needed, cost £2-3k. I am a SAHM, my husband is a high-earner, he sends me a certain amount of money per month, it only really covers the basics.
He has told me he has used the savings we had to pay off our credit card without consulting me first, this now means the treatment I was intending to have, now won’t happen. I think this is a clear sign, he sees all money as his, rather than ours. He has spent about £15k on things over the last few years. I am currently looking for employment, so my financial situation will change soon.

Tell him you're taking a full time job, and from now on he has to do all of the childcare. If he says he can't work and manage the children, tell him he will have to quit then.

Obviously I'm being sarcastic.

The ONLY reason he can attend his well paid job, is because you are at home caring for HIS children. You have forfeited your job, your career, your decent CV, your pension, your status in the workplace, to look after HIS children. All money should be family money.

If he really can't see this, I'd threaten him with divorce. Let him see what his finances would look like if he had to sell the marital home, pay for full time nursery and pay you Child Maintenance. Maybe your finances would be better that way? You'd get tax credits and child benefit.

reading this is upsetting. We women make so many sacrifices for our families and what about us? What he did was awful.

I'm glad you're looking for a job, even if its just part time so that you can feel more financially stable for yourself and not have to ask him for personal things.

No but there was already financial imbalance in your relationship. When you decided to become a sahm what did you discuss about finances?