My 88 yo Grandmother is about to have her leg amputated above knee. She lives in a second floor flat in Edinburgh and will not be able to stay so we will have to sell her home. It is just my Mum and I that live close by. My Grandmother is deemed able to make decisions, although she is VERY far removed from who I know and love and although objectively understands what is happening, we don't believe she can fully grasp that she Will never walk again, never be able to tend to her allotment which has been the love of her life. Anyway, this means we are not allowed to attend MDT meetings. Grandmother is not eating and has been on IV antibiotics for 2 weeks and previously 4 rounds of antibiotics in last 5 months.
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I guess I'm looking for clarity about what we can do...I've read sheltered housing is better to rent as can be difficult to sell once the person dies.
My Mother and I both work full time and feel incredibly stressed. We don't know who to talk to. My Grandmother cannot rely information well and we feel a bit pushed aside whilst it is up to us to arrange the flat and future housing.
Thank you anyone who has any input.