Acquaintance - just dead

[Irishfarmer]

A man I hardly know but always liked died yesterday. It's just one of those weird things isn't it. My DH done work for him 2 weeks ago, he paid us promptly. BIL bumped into him in town Friday afternoon. But yesterday he did suddenly (something in his brain).

He was 61, it's just weird to think you can be hear one day then just gone.

BTW I have lost close family/ friends in my life so not 1st experience with death. This just struck me. That we all will one day just be gone.

I'm in Ireland our funerals are quick, he died last night, Friday morning he will be buried. Done

Sorry very morbid

Yes I have had two friends die very suddenly in the past few months. It's just very hard to think that you will never see them again. Both in their early fifties.

Someone I knew died in RTA last year, very sudden & shocking. About 50yo.
I hear Irish do funerals very well. I hope it's a good celebration of his life.

@lljkk what does in RTA mean? I really didn't know him well so will probably just go along to either the wake or the mass to pay my respect and go home. But I'd imagine there will be a good do to celebrate his life.

We know we are mortal, and life is fragile, but a sudden, unexpected death is always such a shock, isn't it?
A friend of mine was fine and (apparently) well. I'd seen him happy and busy; then he was suddenly ill and dead a few days later, from a cancer he didn't known he had and had no symptoms of until then. Early 50s.
Shock for friends, but devastation for his wife and children.

RTA = road traffic accident

@LowbrowVictoriana thanks for the explanation. I suppose sometimes our own morality does just hit home. Life truly is fragile. I've a new tiny life inside of me, maybe that's where this feeling is coming from!

I know we can't live every day like our last but we can I suppose live as well as we can.

It is hard to accept when there is no warning, or notice, like when someone has been ill for a while. It is difficult to believe somehow - particularly for a younger person that you wouldn't have expected to lose.

I watch 24 hours in A&E sometimes, and one of the Doctors, in the introduction says "Nobody wakes up n the morning expecting to be rushed to A&E" , and I find myself nodding every time I hear it. I think it is similar - you "hear" about things but never expect them to happen to your family, or friends or even acquaintances.

@LowbrowVictoriana

that vey thing happened to dh aged 50 last year. Diagnosed and died after a very short fight with cancer, didn’t even get to have chemo. I married him in hospital then 8 days later I was arranging his funeral.

I just can’t get my head round how I’ll never see him again.

I'm so sorry @blackheartsgirl what an awful, devaststing shock for you. Cancer is a cruel enough disease, but is doubly so when it gives no time and snatches life away so quickly

I worked with a lad who was the same age as my eldest
i saw him at work on the Friday and my boss but up a ‘x has died in his sleep’ on the sunday
he was 24-a baby
turned out he’d gone to bed,had a fit,choked on his vomit and died
such a waste of life-poor lad

It is so hard to take in. I've lost a few acquaintances like that, and honestly, I still can't believe they are gone.

Ar dheis Dé go raibh a anam.

@Kite22 something I heard that stuck with me was along the lines of 'you put your shoes on every morning, but you don't know who will take them off you that evening' found it a bit creepy!

@blackheartsgirl I am so sorry to hear about you DH. He was so young. My Dsis died of that cursed crap at only 32.