Have you stopped contacting friends and realised you were keeping friendship going?

[Lovinglife45]

I have and though it feels a bit shit at first, I feel better in the long run. I am not willing to constantly be the instigator whether for me or for my children to meet with their children.

Two school mum friends - were happy to catch up when I contacted them. I mentioned meeting up and they left as is. I contacted them again and have left it - four months have passed.

Another friend happily responded to my "how are you" and "it would be nice to meet up" messages but never contacted me off of her own back. I ceased contacting her and over a year has passed.

Thank you for this thread. I feel an awful lot better about letting my oldest friendship lapse. It was frankly a chore to remind myself to message frequently enough and I never noticed that she didn't message me either.

I'm sad about losing a large part of my past, but I don't see that I need to carry it almost alone.