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How much should parents pay towards holiday?

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sharond101 · 18/04/2022 13:41

We are going on holiday with my parents. We got 2free child places so effectively kids are accounted for. We have 2 rooms, 4 adults 2 kids. my parents want to pay half but I still think that's unfair somehow. How much would you expect them to pay?

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womaninatightspot · 18/04/2022 14:49

I think you get one free child place per two adults. So I get that you are benefitting but I'd let them pay half and pay for dinner or an activity to even it up.

Rewis · 18/04/2022 14:57

Unfortunately because you think the parents should pay less or more?

girlmom21 · 18/04/2022 14:58

Is that because if they weren't going you'd have to pay for one child?

Let them pay half.

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sharond101 · 18/04/2022 15:09

We are all inclusive. We would on hth have gotten 1 free child place of it's just us but if parents on their own would have cost them rhe same as half as rooms are the same.

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Hugasauras · 18/04/2022 15:12

Unfair on them or you? I don't get it. If they're happy paying half then let them, I say!

MyDcAreMarvel · 18/04/2022 15:14

This makes so sense of course half is fair.

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sharond101 · 18/04/2022 15:14

I think its unfair as my parents would never go to the type of hotel we are going with slides on pool, kids club etc but they asked to come so weve let pushed them into it.

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Hugasauras · 18/04/2022 15:16

But it's not unfair if they are volunteering to pay it? Sounds like they just want to spend time with you and their grandchildren and are happy to pay half to do so. If they're happy with it then what's the issue? When we go away together, my mum usually pays more than we do because she wants to and tells us that she's doing so!

girlmom21 · 18/04/2022 15:16

@sharond101

I think its unfair as my parents would never go to the type of hotel we are going with slides on pool, kids club etc but they asked to come so weve let pushed them into it.
But they asked to come - you didn't ask them to come! They want to spend time with their family. Let them.
Topseyt · 18/04/2022 15:23

The kids are free. The cost of the holiday is the four adult fares. So it is 50/50. Very clear cut. Why do you have an issue with it? They are simply offering to pay for themselves. Let them.

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ChateauMargaux · 18/04/2022 15:26

Offer them whatever you think is fair.. if you want to pay part of their holiday.. then do..

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WallaceinAnderland · 18/04/2022 15:31

Is OP saying the parents should pay less than half?

girlmom21 · 18/04/2022 15:32

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Is OP saying the parents should pay less than half?
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fallfallfall · 18/04/2022 15:32

Maybe the grandparents want to see the kids have fun slides and pools. It really is a joy seeing kids being kids if you don’t have to clean up after them. I just hope the food is good.

Shinyandnew1 · 18/04/2022 15:34

Who do you think a 50/50 split would be unfair on?

WallaceinAnderland · 18/04/2022 15:34

Is OP saying that they have communicated to parents that they should pay less and that parents have refused and are insisting on paying half?

Rewis · 18/04/2022 15:37

Did you offer to pay more and they refused? Even if it is all inclusive you'll probably venture out so pay for all of that stuff. Jaur getting a snack from the airport is very expensive.

If they can afford it and want to pay their own room. Then there is no need to think it's unfair. They wanted to join for the holiday. They could have booked a different holiday if they wanted to.

MinesATriple · 18/04/2022 15:37

So you get the 2nd "free" child place because they are coming, plus they are compromising on destination.

I would suggest 60/40. Tell them you'd be more comfortable with it. The main thing is it's nice that you are both trying to be generous to each other.

Ponderingwindow · 18/04/2022 15:38

My parents wouldn’t come along on a trip like this in a million years despite easily being able to afford to do so. They just aren’t kid people. The fact that your parents want to come on this trip with you is amazing.

Half seems reasonable with 2 caveats

  1. what would they pay if it were just the two of them. If it is radically lower than half, then I would only let them pay that
  2. if your are much better off financially then I might insist on paying more. Basically, If this trip is much fancier than something they would normally do solo, don’t let it hurt their finances.
Bananarama21 · 18/04/2022 15:39

You sound like a cf your dc are free because they are coming if anything you should be paying more.

Hugasauras · 18/04/2022 15:41

@Bananarama21

You sound like a cf your dc are free because they are coming if anything you should be paying more.
OP thinks her parents are paying too much, not that they're paying too little.
SMabbutt · 18/04/2022 15:43

So you are getting a cheaper holiday because they are coming and they wouldn't have chosen that type of holiday, but want to share the holiday to share the experience. If you want to make the argument that they should pay less why not pay what you would have paid if they weren't coming. They then pay the balance. No-one is out of pocket and if they want to pay more they can treat the gc to a day trip or pay for a meal outside the hotel.

Bananarama21 · 18/04/2022 15:45

Hugasauras Op doesn't make that very clear.