People cancelling last minute makes me so cross

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I've organised an Easter egg hunt at my house tomorrow for my NCT group. Our kids are now three and many of them have siblings. I've brought the eggs, little signs and Easter bonnets for them all to craft. I've given people a month's notice, then sent out a reminder on Monday. The night before, they are cancelling - makes me so cross. It's so obvious they've either got better events to go too, can't be bothered or their kids are tired from the bank holiday weekend. My daughter knows something is going on as all the stuff's out on the dining room table and there's eggs she knows she can't eat.

I've decided enoughs a enough - I'm fed up with people cancelling late ... it happens all the time now!

Oh gosh.
Sorry to hear this. Are you the person who does all of the organising?
Could be that if many have siblings they don't have as much time to do get together a etc

Yeah that sucks. No excuse really is there. I quite often can't be arsed to do something I've agreed to but I care about others too much so force myself. And of course it's always fun once you're there .

What excuses are they giving?

So rude. I wouldn’t bother with them anymore.

I suspect their kids have too much chocolate and have have been eating it all day. The thought of more isn't particularly appealing. Perhaps it would have been better last week?

It is really sucky that they've cancelled with no notice.

However, I really wouldn't go arranging parties on a Bank Holiday. People so often have plans with their immediate families or just plan to chill out, and even though they shouldn't be flaky, they're more likely to be so, especially at the tail end of the Bank Holiday when they feel like time is running out.

All really good points thank you. And things I haven't thought about. Always so good to get someone else's perspective

Nah I’m with your first post @OP grown adults are capable of organising their calendars. Don’t say yes if you don’t mean it.

If they got covid fine or have a an emergency but it’s just rude to be a flake.

They are really good points however it’s not you that needs to rethink how you accommodate other people when you’re going out of your way to do something nice for them and your own dc!
They are bloody rude, there are very few excuses that could pass here.
I’m cross on your behalf, you’re not in the wrong. Don’t fancy it then say so when you get the invite.

I’ve no idea why people behave like this. If they’ve said they are going, they should go. Yes if they’re unwell obviously they can’t but if they think they’ve got a better offer, that’s inexcusable, what more do they want!

Thats rubbish of them it sounds like you've made real effort.

I would agree tho, Easter Sunday is the main event. They may have been socialising, drinking, eaten lots of food and chocolate. Bank hol Monday might not have been the best choice....

@DDivaStar

Thats rubbish of them it sounds like you've made real effort.

I would agree tho, Easter Sunday is the main event. They may have been socialising, drinking, eaten lots of food and chocolate. Bank hol Monday might not have been the best choice....

When else would you have an Easter egg hunt but at Easter?

Best angle I can come up with is that they thought you'd spent five minutes hiding eggs in plant pots and watering cans, not realising the trouble you'd gone to. But that's no excuse. I hate flakiness.

@susanboyle

its cause they dont like you :(

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It sounds like you went to a lot of effort to organise something lovely OP so understandably it's upsetting when people cancel.
It could be loads of reasons..feeling all peopled and chocolated out after a busy Easter weekend, forgetting and double booking, feeling anxious etc etc but it doesn't make it feel any better, are any still coming? Xx

It's crap OP.

Are many still coming?

So many people are absolutely flakes. Then you get the posts "I've got no friends and I'm so lonely". Yes, you're lonely because you cancelled on everyone constantly and they've given up on you!