Likely brother will pass away today

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He may have already passed. He had an operation yesterday but had a heart attack in the night and back in for emergency surgery. Still waiting to hear.

He’s my half brother and years older. We’re not close but have always got on. We live miles apart so don’t see each other much.

The one hand I’m on pins waiting to hear something and imagining the worst. Oh n the other I feel a bit numb. Is that normal.

He has young kids and I can’t stop thinking about how devastating this will be for them.

We’re hosting our in laws today which is bad timing. Everyone has just gone out but I couldn’t face hearing bad news out in public.

Not sure why I’m posting this really.

I'm so sorry to hear your news, I hope you have some support in real life. Can you ask your ILs to leave on account of things?
Sending you strength and words of comfort at this time X

I’m very sorry. I can understand why you’ve stayed at home. Sending you strength and offering a handhold.

Really sorry to hear it. It's fairly normal to be numb I think, our brains try to protect us. I think you need to be prioritised, and your DP to sort out things with the in laws

Just heard from my parents they’ve been in to see him and said there is basically no hope. He’s on life support.

This is so awful.

I’m so sorry. Do you want to go and see him. Be with your parents?

I’m not allowed to see him. Parents and wife only.
My parents are driving home tonight so I will travel there tomorrow to be with our Dad.

His poor kids. They were his world and he was theirs. My niece was leaving him voice messages while he was I surgery yesterday and he’ll never hear them.

I'm so sorry.
Maybe his wife can play the voice notes to him. Who knows what we can and can't really hear. It might bring his daughter some peace knowing he heard them.

So sorry to hear you're going through this. So sad. My brother died 33 years ago today so I know a little of what you're going through. Take care.xx

I’m so sorry about your sad news. How awful for you all, and tragic for his young family.

Thanks for your kind messages. I’m so sorry for your loss @LizzieBet14.

I’m still in shock and hoping for a miracle. Googling stories of people that have come back from the brink. The reality that he’s not coming back hasn’t sunk in.

I knew it was risky surgery, but I think we were all a bit blasé about it. Took in my modern medicine and survival stats. Hospital said his covid infection a month ago may have played a part. If they’d of done the surgery sooner maybe this wouldn’t have happened. He waited almost 6 months for this urgent surgery.

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So sorry you’re anticipating bad news, I’ll keep everything crossed for a miracle too.

There’s no “normal” at all as to how you should or should not be feeling so just be kind to yourself

Fingers crossed for you

Sending love

So sorry for you and your family. It's tough to lose a sibling, whether you're close or not and it'll be very hard on your parents. I had a sister who died in hospital and I remember hoping for a miracle against all the odds. The hope kept me going and there's a lot to be said for getting through each stage of this awful journey whatever way you can

Really very sorry, op. It’s such a hard time and I wish you and your family strength.

One Easter weekend my dgm was rushed in with an aortic aneurysm.. It is difficult when people are having fun and just getting on with their lives while yours is in limbo.
Sorry you are going through this op.

My mother died six weeks ago, she was on life support until we ( DH, DS and I could fly in) the doctor was showing us the screen and showing us (having asked us) how to read the sats monitor, he tried to turn it around and it fell down and cracked me on the back of the head and the shoulders, the doctor was mortified, he kept apologising.

I turned to him and said I have had two primaries in five years, that is nothing is that the best you can do ?

The six of us started laughing long, loud and hard as you do when faced with black humour situations.

The point of this is that my Mums sats were so low they were incompatible with life and when we all started laughing they went right back up and stayed there for a while before she passed away peacefully.

There would be no harm in someone playing him those messages, I would put money on him hearing them.

So sorry to hear your news. Thoughts are with you. My brother lives in Germany and has had serious heart problems for the last few years. Last year we nearly lost him. We couldn't see him because of Covid. It's so hard being so far away. Stay strong.

Thank you all for your kind words. They mean a lot.

I really hope they play the messages to him.

It’s so hard to take in. He was so full of life with a booming laugh. He’d just done a degree and was due to finish teacher training. His life should be just beginning a new chapter. Not ending.

So sorry OP, thinking of you and your parents and your brothers family.