Feeling overwhelmed

[Ginnymoo]

To all new mums (those who planned and didn't plan!)

I had my little one 7 weeks ago and I'm still struggling to come to terms with being a mum. I love my daughter and I consider myself a good mum but I keep having moments where I miss my old self and have had many a meltdown! I sometimes struggle to engage with my baby as if she shouldn't be there (she was an unplanned happy surprise).

Does anyone else feel like this? Or, has anyone experienced these feelings?
Please help with how to combat them!

Literally everyone feels like this IME!
I distinctly remember standing in DD’s room, tears running down my face while she wailed her 3-week old lungs out, thinking “What the fuck have I done??!”
It’s normal to grieve for your old life. But you’ll soon get used to it, honestly. And before you know it you’ll have much of your freedom back again.
And congratulations!! Take my advice and enjoy your baby - I didn’t really and I’ll never get that time back.

You don't combat them. You simply allow yourself to feel however it is you're feeling in that moment, knowing that this too shall pass, and it will. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having moments when you miss your old life, even regret having a baby. All of these feelings are normal. Not everyone has experienced every feeling, but many, many have.

Be good to yourself, op.

@devildeepbluesea

Literally everyone feels like this IME! I distinctly remember standing in DD’s room, tears running down my face while she wailed her 3-week old lungs out, thinking “What the fuck have I done??!” It’s normal to grieve for your old life. But you’ll soon get used to it, honestly. And before you know it you’ll have much of your freedom back again. And congratulations!! Take my advice and enjoy your baby - I didn’t really and I’ll never get that time back.

So glad to hear it, and thank you for the advice! I'm trying my best and I do enjoy all the cuddles and the times where she needs me and finds comfort in me - it's getting to grips with the new 'me'

@Aquamarine1029

You don't combat them. You simply allow yourself to feel however it is you're feeling in that moment, knowing that this too shall pass, and it will. There is absolutely nothing wrong with having moments when you miss your old life, even regret having a baby. All of these feelings are normal. Not everyone has experienced every feeling, but many, many have.

Be good to yourself, op.

Thank you Aquamarine1029, fabulous advice!