You’ve made your bed, now lie in it

[SpreadingTheLove]

“You’ve made your bed, now lie in it”

What?? What does this even mean? Because personally if I had just made my bed the last thing I’m going to do is go and lie in it. What a waste of time making the bed!

It's more, you created this situation, you can deal with it.

It's a "I'm not helping you" statement

Its not a literal bed
It's saying you have to deal with the consequences of your actions.

Same as, “Your drama, you act in it.”

You created the situation, get yourself out of it.

My grandmother said exactly this to my mum in 1970 when she became pregnant with me. Mum was not married at the time. Mum then shotgun married Dad and they lived unhappily ever after. This resonated with Mum her whole life.

I have then had this recited to me many many times over the decades by my bitter old Mum.

I now have large

comfy fluffy hotel pillows , Egyptian cotton bedding and a dark walnut sleigh bed that, i lie quite comfortably in every night. I even have a tv that comes out of the foot end.

This was one of my mother's favourite sayings . Basically it means if you ignore good advice and fuck things up, it's tough and you better deal with it yourself!!

I'm writing this from the perspective of having forgotten I'd stripped the bed this morning and after falling asleep on the sofa, have come to bed, wrapped myself in the coverless duvet and settled in for the night.

I know my sleep will suffer, and I'll be a cranky bitch tomorrow. I didn't make my bed, and I'm lying in it, and those are the uncomfortable consequences. You've set the situation up, now you deal with it.

I am love making my own bed and lying in it. In fact, if I make my own bed and anyone else lies in my fresh, clean sheets first, they're in trouble.

That's what beds are for!

It's the same as

'You can't have your cake and eat it' - well actually...

I'm autistic though so things like this just go wooooosh over my head!

(I do know what they mean, I have picked it up over the years, but logically? No.)

I'm quite happy to lie in my bed ..... I made it about an hour ago with fresh, crispy line dried sheets and I have I all to myself. Bliss

The origin of “You have made your bed now lie in it”:
The expression “has been traced back to about 1590 and is linked to the fifteenth-century French proverb “Come on faict son lict, on le treuve” (As one makes one’s bed, one finds it).

This makes more sense: ‘As one makes one’s bed, one finds it’.
= Nobody else is going to straighten things out for you.

It should really say built your own bed rather than make your own bed as would make more sense but never really thought that much about it before ire

If you make your bed badly with wrinkly sheets and only half on untucked so you can't sleep because you get your feet tangled in the sheets and are lying uncomfortably on the tucked up bedding then it's your own fault for not making sure you smoothed sheets out and tucked them in with hospital corners.

IE you buggered up now take the consequences

I know it's not actually the point of the saying but I always make my bed as soon as I wake up and I HATE the thought of sleeping in an unmade bed. So hell yeah I'm gonna lie in the bed I've made!

I personally prefer "not my circus, not my monkeys"

I’ve never understood “she can’t have her cake and eat it”. There is nothing else you can do with cake.

@StarlightLady

I’ve never understood “she can’t have her cake and eat it”. There is nothing else you can do with cake.

You can’t have your cake and eat it too means that you can’t have the pleasure of eating the cake whilst also still possessing it. So - you can’t have it both ways - having the cake AND eating it - choose one or the other.

Telling someone to 'stew in their own juice' is a similar expression....

@StarlightLady

I’ve never understood “she can’t have her cake and eat it”. There is nothing else you can do with cake.

It means you can't have it both ways! You can't eat your cake and then wonder why you've no cake!

Even though it's not about cake.

@Thesefeetaremadeforwalking

Telling someone to 'stew in their own juice' is a similar expression....

Ha! I’ve not heard that for so long! I might start saying it again 🤣🤣🤣🤣

You can’t HAVE your cake (keep hold of it)
and EAT it (use it up).

As others have said, you can’t have it both ways - it’s one or the other!