Whats going on here, male friend ignoring me.

[Ilovetheseventies]

Just friends and normally in contact fairly regularly. He works in same profession and we go cold water swimming etc. Friends for a couple of years Suddenly no contact. When i said you are quiet he denied this. I asked if anything is wrong, I know hes in touch with other people. So its not as if hes shut himself off. I asked a close friend of his just to make sure he wasn't down but it turns out hes ok and that its just me. I am wondering what i have done wrong ? This kind of behaviour really annoys me. Obviously if he doesnt want a friendship theres not much i can do but why behave like this ?

I feel like saying something. I may see him at the swimming tomorrow.
He was going out with a girl from swimming and it ended v badly and she was quite jealous of our friendship. I am wondering if they are back together.
I have no idea though.
Whats the best course of action ?

Wait and see.

Could be that they’re back together, or he’s got another GF, or is there any possibility he might have romantic feelings for you and is trying to distance himself from the friendship?

I think all you can do is say that you hope you haven’t offended him in some way as you’ve noticed he’s been a bit off, and then sadly leave it at that really if he doesn’t want to explain further.

I guess all you can do is try and talk to him lovely. Let him know how him ignoring you is making you feel for a start because if he's any friend, he should care about your feelings. If you see him at the swimming tomorrow, perhaps just say hi and get the conversation going from there. Like a pp poster said, he could be back with that controlling ex of his (shouldn't be in the relationship imo, controlling partners only cause damage to the other party and the other party's relationships in turn) or it could be that he has feelings for you, and is desperately trying to hide them from you so he's keeping his distance. Idk. The only way to find out anything is to speak to him.

He's back with The Jealous One and there's terms and conditions to it....

@MrsMingech

He's back with The Jealous One and there's terms and conditions to it....

This is what I think too!

Racking my brains as to what i have done.
He didn't like her being in touch with an ex when there was little in it. He blew this up out of all proportion and thats why they finished. I had said he was being paranoid and controlling. So perhaps they have come to some compromise.
I dont think he can be much of a friend tbh.
He had asked me out way back but then hes asked most of his female friends out and i dont think that he has any romantic feelings for me.
I am waiting at the swimming but he isnt here just waiting on his other girl friend who is a friend of mine.