We have two young DC. I work in a job that is quite exhausting. It pays ok money and I trained hard to get the job, so I don’t want to give it up or change career. DH can WFH anywhere. We live in one of the best postcodes of a big city. We have a great community of friends around us and we love the city we live in. It’s the perfect mix of diversity/gorgeous countryside/good schools etc.
But we are exhausted and dead and finding it hard to not become bitter about people who have family support with young children. I can see it makes all the difference to my colleagues and we are desperate for that bit of respite and not relying solely on nursery. I’m also fed up of when we do have family visit they have to stay overnight due to distance travelled and it actually ends up making more work.
My family would love it if we moved closer to them…but they live in the UK equivalent of Texas/Florida. It’s hard to reach, the people are slow to warm to newcomers, there’s a serious lack of diversity and the schools aren’t great. I know this because I lived there for a few years before leaving for university.
We could move house (four hours away) and get a bigger house, bigger garden and have family support. But lose the good postcode of a big city, the good schools and the great friends we’ve made.
Does anyone have experience of these thoughts or decisions? Is there something obvious that should ‘give’ that I’m not seeing? Should we just bide our time and get through this relentless stage of parenting to reap the rewards of a good area later?