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Ex tested positive yesterday, when can he see the dc?

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Ohmnomnom · 13/04/2022 10:05

I've read so many conflicting things online about how long people stay contagious for I'm now totally confused.

Girlfriend of ex DP tested positive for Covid last weekend. He tested positive yesterday. The dc were supposed to go to him this Thursday to Monday, the longest period of time he has ever had them. I had so many plans for this weekend Sad

How long would you wait before sending them to ex? 5 or 10 days?

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newbiename · 13/04/2022 10:12

I think they can go. You don't have to isolate any more.

Matchingcollarandcuffs · 13/04/2022 10:15

Unless he is too ill to have then there is no reason for them to not go. Would you get hoon to look after the kids if you had Covid? If you would have Covid and kids why can't he?

Daphnedot · 13/04/2022 10:15

I'd keep my dcs with me until he is showing neg on a test. I know you don't have to isolate but I wouldn't want them to get poorly if I could help it.

Mindymomo · 13/04/2022 10:16

If ex does LFT on days 5 and 6 and these are negative, then he can have them on day 6. Did he have symptoms before testing positive, then maybe he can do the 2 days tests earlier.

x2boys · 13/04/2022 10:21

I don't think there are any restrictions anymore, but I did see something on the news that for however long you test positive on a lft you still have the live, virus so I guess it's up to the individual to make their own risk assessments based on their own situations

Chewbecca · 13/04/2022 10:21

There's no rules so it is entirely down to you own judgement of whether you are happy for them to be with him whilst positive or not.

AntarcticTern · 13/04/2022 10:22

It's up to you OP but personally I'd send them as planned (unless he is too unwell to look after them).

SawnWood · 13/04/2022 10:28

There’s no rules, but it’s whether you want to send them knowing he’s still infectious and could give them covid. If he’s feeling well and still wants to have them I’d maybe consider day 5 if negative testing. But personally I would still avoid anyone until day 10 and 2 negative tests.
So it depends on how you feel about your kids catching it at this stage and then you when you have to look after him

SawnWood · 13/04/2022 10:28

*look after them. Not him

aSofaNearYou · 13/04/2022 10:32

It baffles me that so many would just send them anyway. I'd much rather cancel my weekend plans than sene my kids to get Covid and then give it to me.

x2boys · 13/04/2022 10:36

@aSofaNearYou

It baffles me that so many would just send them anyway. I'd much rather cancel my weekend plans than sene my kids to get Covid and then give it to me.
Well tbf they could get covid anywhere my son has had it twice presumably from school ,we are still in a pandemic and rates are very high so unless we all stay in for ever more the chances are they will catch it at some point .
TheTeenageYears · 13/04/2022 10:42

You are perfectly within your rights both from a contact and covid legal perspective to send them however it really depends if you want the increased risk of one or both of them bringing it home with you having to pick up the pieces. If they've both had it very recently (last 4-6 weeks) the risk will be minimal but if not I would probably rather sacrifice a long childfree weekend than the potentially for suffering the effects of covid in the house following time with their DF.

aSofaNearYou · 13/04/2022 10:45

Well tbf they could get covid anywhere my son has had it twice presumably from school ,we are still in a pandemic and rates are very high so unless we all stay in for ever more the chances are they will catch it at some point.

Yes but they're much more likely to get it being looked after by a parent who currently has it.

x2boys · 13/04/2022 10:48

@aSofaNearYou

Well tbf they could get covid anywhere my son has had it twice presumably from school ,we are still in a pandemic and rates are very high so unless we all stay in for ever more the chances are they will catch it at some point.

Yes but they're much more likely to get it being looked after by a parent who currently has it.

I have never had it despite it being in our very small house twice ,and yet my son has had it twice .
aSofaNearYou · 13/04/2022 10:54

I have never had it despite it being in our very small house twice ,and yet my son has had it twice.

Fair enough, but this is obviously just a fluke. There's a chance someone at school could have it. She KNOWS her ex has it.

AntarcticTern · 13/04/2022 11:04

It's the longest he's ever had them for! Personally I'd prefer to have my nice weekend as planned and accept I may get covid (which I may get at any time anyway).

HippeePrincess · 13/04/2022 11:30

I’d send them anyway, in fact I did last weekend as we had covid in our household too for the third time.

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Ohmnomnom · 13/04/2022 11:38

It's so tricky isn't it? I don't feel right sending them off somewhere that I KNOW they'll probably get it. I'm self employed, so if I get it then that means no work for me as I have elderly clients. Bit of a shit situation.

@AntarcticTern That's a whole other thread! He's very happy with his every other week contact and minimum amount of child maintenance. Guess who thinks they're father of the year?

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