Sexless relationship

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Apologies in advance about the details but I’m too embarrassed to ask anyone irl.
I’ve been with my partner over a year and sex was fine in the beginning, not amazing but it done the job. It became sexless around 6 months in as we were both always tired and our schedules made it harder to fit in - no pun intended. We’ve spoken about it as it’s been 3 months now and it’s starting to bother me a lot that my partner doesn’t look at me and want to rip my clothes off whenever he can. We’ve decided to work on it and try and get back into a routine but my issue is that I feel so awkward and uncomfortable. The thought of having sex again has made me clam up and quite literally reseal myself. I don’t know if it’s the resentment and embarrassment but I can only envision us as being a sexless couple now and obviously I don’t want that. Can anyone give any tips to boost my confidence before I throw this one to the pan? Tia

Sounds like a lack of intimacy. Do you do anything else physically?

Intimacy isn’t just sex. Think about increasing snuggles, kisses, foot rubs, showing gratitude, holding hands, showering together, sitting without the tv on and simply talking.

Once that has built up you might find you’ve built the natural feeling of confidence with each other comes back. Sex will follow.

Also, have date nights. Every week. No exceptions and carve it out your busy schedules. Again, it’s not about sex, it’s about intimacy and communication.

If it’s still not working, be sure you’re want to continue like this and look to have some frank discussions then decide if it’s worth the effort. It’s quite early in the relationship for this to end, and it’s important you know that being desired is essential to your own body confidence. Don’t let it go unchecked for too long. Life’s too short for that.

Is it definitely your confidence that's at fault? I mean, that would surely be more of a situation where you really fancied him but felt nervous, but this doesn't sound like that. It sounds like sex wasn't brilliant with him to start with, and you've gradually gone off him to the point where you simply don't want to have sex with him any more.

And if you don't feel he fancies you because he doesn't seem to fancy you, that's nothing to do with your confidence either.

It just sounds like you've gone off each other.

Do you actually fancy him?

Sounds like you’re incompatible & I would end the relationship, given that it’s a fairly new one.

Sounds to me it’s time to end this relationship.

Just re-read and noticed you've only been together for a year. Just end it. Resentment about a lack of sex at this early stage isn't something to work on; it's a clear sign that you're simply not compatible.

You’re only a year or so in and sex is already a massive issue. This doesn’t scream ‘happy long term relationship’ does it? I would seriously end if.

Thanks all

End it.
You're not compatible and should still be in the honeymoon rabbit stage.
This will not improve.