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Counselling for historic abuse

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0atbiscuit · 12/04/2022 11:05

I was thinking about getting some counselling for childhood sexual abuse. Nothing really awful but went on for a couple of years age 9-11 and then a few older boys separately trying to do things to me up to 13. I lost count of all the people who assaulted me after that. Low level stuff just groping, touching or trying to press up against me. This went on until early twenties.
I don't feel like a mess but I do think about this most days in some capacity. I self harmed a lot as a teenager and was not well behaved.
What I'm wondering is if it's just normal for someone of 47 to have had all this anyway, I think most women have. Will a counsellor think, well none of that is that bad really, every woman has that stuff. Or... do I need to talk about it to move on?

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coffeeisthebest · 12/04/2022 11:09

No it isn't normal for women to experience this, and it certainly, definitely wasn't ok. Yes please seek counselling and work through this stuff. Good luck. You have been treated badly.

GodspeedJune · 12/04/2022 11:10

I think counselling could be really helpful to you. Ideally somewhere/ someone that specialises in this type of trauma.

0atbiscuit · 12/04/2022 11:12

It's such a long time ago and I have a nice life now. These people just cross my mind that's all. How do people benefit from counselling if they're not really in a bad way please?

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0atbiscuit · 12/04/2022 11:13

Just trying to make my mind up about whether to go.

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Sn0tnose · 12/04/2022 12:08

OP, have a look at Napac.org.uk

There are always going to be people who had it worse than you did, no matter what happened to you. That does not mean that what you went through is less important or that you’re ‘less deserving’ of help.

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0atbiscuit · 12/04/2022 15:28

Okay thank you but is anyone able to say how it might help to get counselling? Sorry to sound so ignorant but if I talk about the things do they somehow go away? What is supposed to happen?

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